attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 8:13pm
Free will. God gave us free will and we use that free will (and also our God-given smarts) to create mutagenic chemicals and to invade and clear-cut wild areas which exposes us to animal viruses. Thus the tumors and AIDS are our fault. If we didn't create so many cancer-causing agents, we wouldn't get so much cancer. If we didn't upset the monkey habitats of Africa, we wouldn't have been exposed to the virus they were carrying. The only way for God to prevent this would be to deprive us of free will.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 8:15pm
Yes. God could have chosen not to give us free will and then we would have been unable to create mutagenic chemicals or invade Anfrican monkey habitats. I think the ability to screw ourselves over if we choose is a fair trade in exchange for getting free will.
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Registered: 04-22-2003
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 8:18pm
So you're happy to not be paid while you're out of work due to the birth of a child? How long did you take off after having a kid?
Kerry with Campbell Elizabeth 11.03.06 and Benjamin Brady 12.10.03
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Registered: 01-06-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 9:03pm

I don't expect someone to pay me not to work if I'm not working and I'm not ill.

10 weeks with dd#1 and 9 with dd#2.

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 9:04pm

Really? On what do you base that people living in the US view SAHM's as evil? Did we pass a law to discourage SAH or something like other countries have passed laws to discourage WOH?

My country takes a "This is your decision" stance. They don't declare either bad. Which is as it should be.

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 9:06pm
Doesn't the Canadian government pay women to SAH? That's proof right there. If a society will pay you not to work, for whatever period of time, they're declaring working a bad thing. Bad enough that they'll pay you not to do it. Actions speak louder than words and the actions of these governments are that WOH, at least for some time, is so much to be avoided that they'll pay women not to do it.
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 9:07pm
THe reason is quite clear. They view WOH for whatever period of time something to be avoided. So much so, they'll pay you not to do it. Nothing complex about that other than why a society would think that way.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 9:10pm
absolutely......it's hard to swallow some notion that God created ills like cancers and aids just like he created you and i. the ills in this world,whether they be diseases that kill us or lifestyles come from our own human faults. my mother is in a better place because her faith secures that belief, but she didn't die because of something God made.......beautiful post,susannah!!

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 9:20pm
why are you placing God on a human level?

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 9:36pm
Such as?

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