attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 9:36pm
So this is the version you're sticking with? I just want to be sure.
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 10:11pm

But aren't you "ill" for at least 6 weeks past the birth? My doctor didn't allow me to drive for 4 weeks post-birth and then didn't want me working until at least 8 weeks...so you're claiming that you wouldn't want to be paid for this time out that is medically necessary?

Honestly, I think you're taking it too far. There's no one who wouldn't prefer getting paid over not getting paid.

Kerry with Campbell Elizabeth 11.03.06 and Benjamin Brady 12.10.03
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 10:12pm
Forget about countries - what about organizations that pay their workers to SAH for 3 months or more? They're out there. Do you think they want to "encourage" SAH? NO way. They want to retain employees.
Kerry with Campbell Elizabeth 11.03.06 and Benjamin Brady 12.10.03
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 10:13pm
You're still forgetting that men have the SAME benefit there.
Kerry with Campbell Elizabeth 11.03.06 and Benjamin Brady 12.10.03
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 10:19pm
Again you show you know nothing of our society. The money comes from the unemployment insurance, which we pay into while we work. so essentially we are paying ourselves for maternity leave. We dont pay ourselves 'not to work' just take time off. There is a difference. And i've probably said a dozen times that its optional. If a canadian mom wants to work, as you do, they can go back. Its her choice. Its always a choice.
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Registered: 08-05-2004
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 10:20pm

"Doesn't the Canadian government pay women to SAH?"

For 1 year only. Not 18. So they are not saying SAH is the best option. They are saying if you want to take time to take care of your babies. You can.

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Registered: 04-22-2003
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 10:22pm

This whole thread has taken a very "anti-Canadian" tone, sheesh! Reminds me of the South Park "Blame Canada" bit.

Kerry with Campbell Elizabeth 11.03.06 and Benjamin Brady 12.10.03
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 10:25pm
Post 1248.
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Registered: 06-09-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 10:26pm
Why? You're not *my* lawyer.
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Registered: 08-02-2006
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 10:31pm
Again please show me where Canada said woh is bad and that we must sah... our country takes a "this is your decision" stance too!!!!!We don't declare either bad too... Please send me proof we are a country that thinks woh is bad.

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