attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 4:48pm

My company insists on 6 weeks. I have a friend whose company insists on 4 1/2. Do you consider 6 or 4 1/2 weeks home as staying home? I don't think anyone here would say that my 10 weeks at home constitutes staying home.

I do know women who returned to work after two weeks. They've worked for smaller companies that had no policy for leave after the birth of a child. My company just doesn't want the liability, which is why they insist we go on leave two weeks before the baby is due. Can't have us going into labor on the premesis. My guess would be that the 6 weeks after birth is just to make sure there won't be any issues that they could be held liable for when you return.

We are moving forward. Dads can now use their 5 personal days after the birth of a child, lol. We have a long way to go. When they start giving both parents the same leave, they'll stop encouraging discrimination against women.

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 4:49pm
No, they've decided that working when you have kids is bad so they pay you not to do it. You can value family without passing judgement on working moms.
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Registered: 01-06-2006
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 4:51pm

Ditto to you. You're just repeating yourself too.

Sorry but it is a very strong declaration of what you believe when you will pay someone not to do something. We don't pay people not to do things unless we consider them bad things to do.

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 4:52pm
I don't care where it comes from. You pay moms not to work. That is a strong statement of what you think of WM's. When you will pay to avoid something, that's disapproval of that something. I don't care if Santa delivers the money in a big red sack.
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Registered: 01-06-2006
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 4:53pm

Ditto.

My posts make sense if you read them.

It's quite simple, when a society will pay people not to do something, they are saying that that something is bad. It's certainly not approval of that something. Anything you'll pay to avoid is something you really don't like.

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 4:55pm
My employer considers me too ill to work. Does the canadian government consider moms too ill to work? What is their sickness? My employer just doesn't want to take the risk that I'll come back too soon and they'll get sued. What's the canadian governments motive?
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Registered: 08-05-2004
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 4:55pm

I have nothing against working moms. I work too. If someone wants to return to work that is their decision.

It's this irrational and unsubstantiated claim that paying a women the money shes put into employement insurance, to voluntarily stay home for up to a year is somehow bad.

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Registered: 08-05-2004
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 4:58pm
'Avoid' work? Again you are being ridiculous and extremely biased. From your posts it seems you work in a heavily sexist environment and have been wronged by sexist people. That is awful. No one should have to go through that. But it's turned you against anyone who chooses to do what they feel is right because it's not what you would do. You are passing judgement on an entire country and every woman who stays home longer than you. How is that right?
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Registered: 08-05-2004
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 4:59pm

"What's the canadian governments motive?"

Allow parents to spend time with their family...

Oh the horror! The shame! What an awful thing to allow a person to do. Woe is me!

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Registered: 08-05-2004
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 5:02pm

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