attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 5:32pm
why do you care? Them providing family leave doesn't make working bad....but if that's how you're feeling...maybe you should rethink your strategy.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 5:36pm

OR it's a STRONG statement that they value parents in the workplace. So therefore they OFFER solutions that work for everyone. I know quite a few US moms who would've killed for that option. They could've taken time off and returned to their career. Instead they left the work force and the US companies lost some of their best employees.

What it really shows is ONCE again the US lags behind.

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 6:26pm

Because anything a society will pay you not to do is something that is considered bad by that society. I care because I do not want to see my country go this route and I fear they will because other countries have and because I think that attitude can bias research findings and research findings from industrialized nations are often viewed as valid in other industrialized nations when they might not be.

I suspect that considering SAH good/WOH bad for whatever period, so much so that you'll pay women not to work, could indeed color what research is finding in those countries. Then someone here starts arguing because of what they found that we should do the same here and women lose. I don't want to leave that kind of legacy for my dd's.

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 6:27pm
THey're not avoiding working? Um, they're not at their jobs and they're being paid to not be at their jobs. What's your definition of avoiding working? Fits mine.
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Registered: 08-05-2004
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 6:28pm
Yes. Choice is such a horrible thing to leave behind for our children.
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Registered: 08-05-2004
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 6:30pm

Avoiding working would be not showing up when you were expected to.

Taking a leave of absence is not the same as leaving a job and not coming back.

You have your definitions totally mixed up.

Did you avoid wotk for 6 weeks? How about someone in the US who gets 3 months leave? Are they avoiding it?

Are you avoiding work if you are injured and cannot work?

Just because you work in what sounds like an incredibly sexist environment doesn't mean we all are suffering. Mothers in canada are all very grateful to be able to get a years leave to be with their babies. We actually enjoy it.

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Registered: 04-22-2003
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 7:15pm
Using the same argument you could also say the US doesn't want to encourage marriage (it is changing with the changes to the so called marriage penalty tax, but frequently it's better taxwise for ppl to be single).
Kerry with Campbell Elizabeth 11.03.06 and Benjamin Brady 12.10.03
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Registered: 04-22-2003
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 7:17pm

And Canada isn't MAKING anyone do anything. Canadians can go back to work whenever they want (2 weeks, 3 weeks, 1 year).

You're speculating as to what your employer's motives and intentions are and are of course taking the side of your employer, however, by using your argument against Canada, your employer actually is MORE at fault.

Kerry with Campbell Elizabeth 11.03.06 and Benjamin Brady 12.10.03
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Registered: 04-22-2003
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 7:18pm
Yet your doctor cleared you medically at two weeks.
Kerry with Campbell Elizabeth 11.03.06 and Benjamin Brady 12.10.03
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Registered: 04-22-2003
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 7:19pm
Please remember that it's PARENTAL leave, not just "WOMEN's" leave.
Kerry with Campbell Elizabeth 11.03.06 and Benjamin Brady 12.10.03

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