attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 7:28pm

Yup. However, my employer didn't take his word on that. In fact, they didn't ask for his word on that. The company doctor did not clear me or see me at 2 weeks.

For whatever reason the've deemed it so, my employer considers a woman unfit for duty for 6 weeks after birth. You can't go back earlier than that. As I've said in other posts, it's probably just them covering themselves legally againt the possibility of someone being forced back too soon or someone taking issue with one doctor giving one person 6 weeks whereas they got only 3.

This not a case of my employer deciding that SAH is best. It's a question of medical ability to return to work. Giving birth is simply a common enough event tht they've standardized the leave process. It's still medical leave.

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Mon, 08-28-2006 - 7:29pm
Why do only parents get it?
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Registered: 01-06-2006
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 7:29pm
No, not making anyone do it but bribing them to do it their way. Do you still get the money if you don't take off of work?


Edited 8/28/2006 7:30 pm ET by kbmammm
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Mon, 08-28-2006 - 7:31pm
But the company does lose the employee for the time of the leave. They have to train someone else to do the job and then let that person go if/when mom decides she's had enough of playing house. This does not benefit employers in any way.
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Registered: 01-06-2006
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 7:32pm
Please remember who takes the vast majority of leave offered. Women!
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Registered: 01-06-2006
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 7:33pm
If they valued them in the work place they'd be doing things to keep them in the work place not paying them to stay out of the work place for whatever time.
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Registered: 01-06-2006
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 7:33pm
No, avoiding something is not doing it, period.
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Registered: 08-05-2004
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 7:37pm

I see it differently. Telling a woman she has to return to work in 6 weeks or lose their job is risking them deciding to quit and never come back. Offering them a choice to stay home up to a year will allow them to be the mom they want and still come back. So by offering them this choice, they will get the woman back at work in majority of cases IMO.

Offerring them no choice can result in losing them.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 7:54pm
Because they are caring for the ones that will be running this country when we are old. When it is MATERNITY leave it is because the mother is healing from giving birth. When it is PARENTAL leave who is going to care for a 2 week old. I know you won't answer my questions, you never do. I guess you are just stumped?
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Mon, 08-28-2006 - 8:18pm

"They have to train someone else to do the job and then let that person go if/when mom decides she's had enough of playing house."

Is "playing house" what you think SAHP's do? I'd expect such a comment from a male chauvinist, not another woman. But then again, your posts have demonstrated over and over that you are no feminist.

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