attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:06pm
I don't think that anyone here is advocating handing out cookies to children who need to be comforted. I don't think anyone here thinks that's a good thing.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:06pm

You let something a stranger said or did determine whether or not you would provide your son with the best infant nutrition available? If you're not going to do it, you're not going to do it, but personally, I'd have to have a better reason than that.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:08pm
so you are okay with 7 year olds nursing, is there any age where you say you know this just isnt right? even if the mom and the child still enjoy it?
Jennie
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:09pm
That's not the case at our house. I think our family and guests would pretty much feel cheated if I decided to serve peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for Thanksgiving dinner. Maybe they were ALL late weaned, who knows?
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Registered: 08-02-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:09pm
I never said 13 months is the right age, that is the age I stopped bf not that if u bf further its wrong. I am not sure what the right age is but for me 4 yrs old is too old. They are using food as a comforting tool. Teaching them food is comfort.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:11pm
Have you ever known a nursing 7 year old? I haven't. I have known dozens of nursing four year olds, an occasional nursing five year old, but never a nursing six year old. Honest, they do outgrow it.
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Registered: 08-02-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:11pm
Personally I don't care if she changed her user name so she can chat again. I was showing her where/why people think she is those two users. She shouldn't have posted Oops. busted if she wasn't them.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:13pm

I don't know what that age would be, but somewhere around 7, because IIRC, between 3 and 7 is when most children will wean on their own, if not forced to wean earlier.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:16pm
You are confusing the time you spend sitting with your family, and the nice things your co workers, and the nice things you did with eating. Look at someone like Oprah. She uses food as a comfort and she has had weight issues her whole life. The time around the table with my family is a wonderful time for us to share our day, and talk. The food part is about having nourishment.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:18pm
See what you just said? MEALTIME. That is comforting, not the food itself. You don't whip up a snack in the middle of the day because your child is crying. See what I am saying?

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