attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 11-11-2005
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:29pm

Someone else posted "Oops busted." If you look, it is a different person with a similar but not identical user name whop posted that.

None of the info cdmamnyell posts matches OTBM's profile--not the number of kids, the gender of the kids, the country of origin or current location, the religion, none of it.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:32pm
No, I don't wonder at all. I just don't think it has much to do with people sitting around enjoying meals together ritually and socially. I think it has to do with fast food, sugar, incessant snacking, sedentary lifestyles, and over-eating to try to compenstate for something else that's lacking in your life than enjoying meals with family and friends.
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Registered: 08-06-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:33pm

**So now your going from <> cup or eyedroppers to TWO cups of breastmilk during all of the kid's waking hours your were away from your kids at work. Which is it?

That is not reverse cycling. Night breastfed babies drink quite a bit during the day when they are awake, alert and active. Unless their just sitting still trapped in a playpen for a year and I know that ddin't happen. So you are too late to backpeddle now.

I could ask you the same thing. Aren't you just trolling? I've never seen your name here before.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:34pm
i dont believe i ever said it had anything to do with extended nursing, but if you think i did please point it out to me. what i said is "I" dont want "MY" kids to look to food of any kind to find comfort.
Jennie
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Registered: 11-11-2005
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:35pm

Have you ever noticed that the onset of obesity as a societal epidemic is tied directly to lifestyles becomning more sedentary and food becoming more processed and less natural. (bleached flour, refined sugar, high fructos corn syrup, preservatives galore, formula for babies).

As a culture, we have replaced natural foods with chemical and processed foods, even for our babies. And as a culture, we have become a sedentary people. And obesity has been climbing since these shifts began.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:38pm
presence, closeness and exclusivity are not only present when breastfeeding though. sucking maybe, maybe not. and do 4+ year olds really have that need to suck that an infant has - i dont know, maybe they do
Jennie
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Registered: 08-02-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:39pm
First of all I never made those allegations, second of all those two names are so close and one has stuff in profile and the other doesn't.... A little fishy. Its soooo easy to lie on your profile. You make stuff up and bang your on your way. Seriously, you think that if their profiles are different they must be different ppl. Half the ppl on here probably made something up or just didn't bother to put in personal stuff on their profile. Anyone can make stuff up if they went to school and know different countries/towns/cities/locations/can easily say they have two instead of three kids.. really... Not saying she is or isn't those ppl but don't assume cause her profiles are different that is the only reason she isn't those ppl.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:39pm
Well when we have mealtime together I could care less about the food. What is comforting to myself and my family is the time we spend together. The food is nothing more than just that. Food.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:40pm

Using food as the central activity for socializing is as old as recorded history (and possibly older). If you are trying to link rising obesity rates with mealtime socialization, you will have to show that they've both increased. But sociologists say that in the US, mealtime socializing has actually gone down as obesity rates have gone up. Some theorize that one of the factors leading to obesity (for some) is DECREASED mealtime socializing. People eat more on-the-go food that tends to be less healthy than what they would eat at a sit-down meal.

Lois is trying to keep going a food tradition that dates back thousands of years, appears in every culture, and has no link to obesity. Quite the opposite. Our culture is the fattest currently and has also jettisoned family sit-down meals more so than any other culture. They still live on, bit we've pared them back more than any other cultures and also are fatter. Could be one element of causation, could just be correlation.

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Registered: 08-06-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:41pm

And you never will meet that kind of mom. They don't exist. Babies cry. All babies. and if any mom told me they knew the babies' cry was from hunger, loneliness or boredom I would say that was wishfull thinking and have fun with that. You heard the old saying Babies don't come with instruction bookletts? Well its very common and it makes sense why.

Goddess L. has sais she worked. Nothign wrong with that. But no way would she even know if the babies cried <> when she was not around. At some point the mommy olympics get so unbelievable and people invent so much that it gets rediculous.

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