attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 01-23-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:43pm
The philisophic approach that montessori uses, in my experience, is teaching a child to be able to do things for themselves...is it not? I mean, that's what I was taught about montessori, anyway. Teaching them to be more independent in the younger years, with learning how to transfer things using different objects, how to pour, ect., and then yes, the academic approach in the later years. I have never heard of montessori being a sort of parenting approach.
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:43pm
maybe food is just more important to some people than to others. for us, mealtime is centered around being together
Jennie
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:43pm

I was just thinking that. The obesity epidemic stems in part from the fact that people DONT sit down to eat together as much. Too much eating on the run and fast food. People are in such a hurry to eat, half the time they dont think about *what* they are eating, cant remember what they ate over the course of the day, and as a result ingest way more calories than they actually need.

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 11-11-2005
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:44pm

I've been posting at ivillage for over six years. I had one previous user name, but this one has been here for at least a year. I can't remember when exactly I changed it. Many, many of the posters here know who I am. I've even met several of them IRL.

I don't post on this particular board that often, because there are always the mommy olympic types and trolls who make it such an unpleasant place to post.

If he drinks half a sippy cup at noon and half in the afternoon, that is one sippy cup of milk. I haven't back peddled anything at all. You are looking to start something that just isn't there to be started.

How much milk do you really think an infant needs if it has nursed at 7 am and nurses again at 5:30 pm, plus cluster nurses from about 7:30pm to 10pm or so, and then co-sleeps and nurses a couple of times a night?

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:44pm
I figured out nursing while lying down with #1, but ya know what I figured out with #3 that made life a lot easier? Nursing with the TOP breast while lying down. That way, I don't have to switch positions to switch breasts. How's that for talented? ;)
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Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:45pm
Wow. I guess we're just different as a family. We just got back from a long trip to New England, where we'd never been as a family, and all of us were eager to have lobsters in Maine and to try Indian Pudding and to have clam chowder in Boston, stuff like that. We don't have cake often, but the kids get to pick what kind I will make for their birthdays, and they really enjoy that. We have corned beef for St Patrick's Day, Cajun food at Mardi Gras, a certain kind of cookie I make for Valentine's Day, lamb for Easter, I mean, it's a family tradition. And our friends seem to like it, too. And we're not obese...one son is downright skinny, the other one does tend to get pudgy right before a growth spurt.
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:45pm
i so totally agree......
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Registered: 01-23-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:46pm
When have I ever said that my son was totally controlled? Please, I am going to once again ask to not have words put in my mouth. So I had my son on a strict feedng schedule, one he set in the beginning by himself, and one I stuck to with no problems. My son is incredibly independent. He likes to tell me all the time, and is not yet even two, "momma, I got it." "No momma, I do it." He has to do everything himself, or at least think that he's in some way helping me. Hmmm, seems to be pretty independent and motivated to me!
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:46pm

She did not post that, someone else was trying to portray her and used a similar username. Which is a violation of TOS and will result in that person getting booted.

Momwriter and cdmamnyell are not the same person.

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:48pm
I studied Montessori texts and approaches when I set up my children's rooms and playrooms when they were small with the express goal of fostering early competence in basic life skills.

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