attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:14pm
Ok. Well for us it doesn't matter if it is a sandwich or a steak. Not to mention that no food comforts me unless I am sick and a bowl of soup eases a sore throat.


Edited 8/17/2006 2:15 pm ET by mbanc17
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Registered: 06-02-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:15pm

And what about chicken soup when you are sick? As an adult, I still get comfort from a steaming mug of chicken broth when I have something of the upper-respritory nature. Partially because it is a proven aid in healing, but also partly because of the nostalgia aspect of getting grandma's homemade soup when I was little.

What the heck is wrong with that???

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Registered: 01-23-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:15pm
Do you not read my posts all the way through, and read them all? I have said before, I noticed my son's signs of hunger when I was with him, when I was aroung him, when I was awake. If I happened to be sleeping (like at night), or doing housework, or homework while was in his swing or bouncer (I am in college), then I was not constantly staring at him. Those time I was awake but doing something else, he would get to a little whimper, and it got my attention, when I was sleeping, and on the other side of the house, and it was the middle of the night, then yes, it took a cry to wake me up, despite the monitor (which frequently picked up some other kid, it was so strange). I would never let my child purposely begin to cry before being fed, I would never let him go into a crying fit, as you seem to be interpretting. Not once did he ever get that bad. I didn't "make him cry before he was fed", that's just sometimes how it happened, how my attention needed to be got while we were sleeping in the middle of the night. I have never been insistant that he has to cry before he is fed. I want yout to please point out where I have said that, along with a link to that post.
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Registered: 08-06-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:16pm

there were several times we got caught in the car or at the playground unprepared or where the baby simply had to wait some. I did my best to plan and prepare. But I would rather the baby have exposure to the outdoors and fresh aire than sit at home all weekend with me and set the alarm clock to go off before a possible feeding.

Babies that never cried, they never left the house. Thats so not us.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:17pm
my kids pretty much have free access to the kitchen, they want something to eat they go get it. the only time i send them out of the kitchen is if we are fixing to sit down to dinner. we always have food at get-to-gethers too, but it is not the food that is important, it is being together. we are having a cookout right after school starts for a group of our friends, i really dont think it matters to them if i serve hotdogs or steaks, they are coming to share in the good times, the food is just a side dish, so to speak :)
Jennie
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Registered: 01-23-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:23pm
Oh no, I know that breast milk has nutrients in it that can not possibly be copied, I just knew breastfeeding was not something I wanted to do. I would certainly never argue that breastmilk and formula are the same.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:23pm

Wow.

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Registered: 01-23-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:24pm
It's motor skills, teaching them how to control their movements, even with small, difficult things.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:25pm

She's not trolling; she's been here for years. Regular posters know who she is and who she used to be.

Can't say the same for you.

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Registered: 11-11-2005
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:26pm
I quoted you in that very post. Go re-read your own words.

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