attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:26pm
I was thinking about lack of pasteurized homogenized milk, which a 4 year old should be drinking plenty of.

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Registered: 11-11-2005
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:27pm
Why can't you nurse a baby in a park?
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Registered: 05-07-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:27pm
I agree with you 100% I too didn't breastfeed nor did we co-sleep, I didn't have my daughter tethered to me via "sling" pack, she would have been MISERABLE if I had.

Wake me gently
If you can
Wake me gently
Just touch my hand
Wake me gently
Pull my sleeve
'Cuz where I'm at
Is where I wanna leave

"Wake Me Gently" Alice Cooper

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Registered: 01-23-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:28pm
Lol, I totally agree. However, no matter where we went, I always had a bottle and some formula with me, so when it was time for him to eat, he could eat wherever we were. I just never left the house unprepared. I was one of those moms that had the HUGE diaper bags full of everything but the kitchen sink! ;)
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Registered: 06-02-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:28pm
Mybe because she realized that once you became a mother it was no longer about just you. Maybe she was acting as an avocate for your newborn baby who most certainly would have benfited from nursing?
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:30pm
i agree with that, but what i was talking about was the difference between two families who are both sitting down to dinner every night, in one family the food is the centerpiece in the other the being together is the centerpiece. to me there is a difference. in our family waht is important is that we sit down to dinner together every night, what food is placed on the table doesnt really matter.
Jennie
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Registered: 01-23-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:31pm
Sorry, I saw no quote in there stating that I MADE my son cry before I would feed him, I do believe you are mistaken.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:31pm
I hate that comment.

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Registered: 11-11-2005
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:33pm

I would assume that the family to which the food is important would be the healthier family. Homecooked, balanced meals tend to be more nutrient packed and helathful than their mass produced counterparts. And a family that cares about the types and quality of the food is much more likely to have the homecooked, healthful meals, as opposed to just eating whatever is on the table.

*Food* is a big deal in my family. We are all foodies. But we want high quality, good, healthy, homemade foods. Fast foods, sandwiches, pizza, etc., just doesn't cut it for a family meal.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:34pm

I totally agree with this! I don't think the poster is saying that by not focusing on food, she is denying food, though. I think the food is just a non-issue. Food is a non-issue at our house, too, but that doesn't mean we don't enjoy and associate certain dishes with special occasions, like you.

I disagree that M & Ms are a normal reward system for potty training. For us, the reward was big kid underwear. :>

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