attachment parenting

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Registered: 02-19-2004
attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 2:56pm
Since Momwriter/OTBM is perfect able to post here under her own name, why would she hide behind another name then admit it was her?
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Registered: 06-02-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 3:00pm
How in the world does being able to read early signs of hunger mean you cant leave the house? It takes all of 2 seconds to unhook my nursing bra and get the baby latched on. I can do that anywhere. It's also not difficult to nurse the baby before getting in the car.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 3:02pm
Food is important for nourishment. It isn't important for comfort.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 3:03pm
In your hypothetical family, one of them doesn't care what type of food is placed on the table- that is exactly what you said. So it is logical to conclude that if the type of food is irrelevent, junk food takeout is just as acceptable as anything else.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 3:03pm
I don't get that either. We're a pretty travel-intensive family -- we average about six weeks a year on the road. Our kids each experienced their first road trips before the age of four months.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 3:08pm
How can you prevent your children making this association and why would you want to? Unless you go out of your way to make sure that they are never enjoying themselves while eating, it's bound to happen to some degree. I suppose you COULD go out of your way to make mealtimes uncomfortable by choosing then to discuss the day's bad nehaviour or something, but I don't see the point.
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Registered: 11-11-2005
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 3:12pm
I disagree.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 3:14pm
Here's an example of yours where food DOES matter. You have a cookout. It doesn't matter if you serve hot dog or steaks. So therefore the type of food doesn't matter, right? But it does. It needs to be outdoorsy "cookout" food. If you decided that next year you were going to serve chicken soup instead of traditional cookout food, I bet you'd find that the type of food matters a great deal.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 3:16pm
So if you served bowls of cereal forThanksgiving dinner it would be just as accepted as the usual Thanksgiving fare? (This is assuming there has been no emergency that makes normal Thanksgiving impossible.)
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 3:19pm
Serve Cheerios for your next family holiday get together. Unless there has just been a terrible emergency that made anything nicer impossible, I'll bet that the type of food suddenly will matter.

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