attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Thu, 08-17-2006 - 5:23pm
i dont believe that not having turkey on thanksgiving in any way takes away from ones ability to identify, experience or enjoy the holiday of thanksgiving. maybe some people see it that way, i dont, and there is nothing wrong with either way
Jennie
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Thu, 08-17-2006 - 5:26pm
and i imagine in some families junk food is okay as an everyday staple, in mine it is not. that i dont care what the food is does not extrapolate out to not caring if food is healthy. unless of course the only healthy thing you can serve at thanksgiving is turkey.
Jennie
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Thu, 08-17-2006 - 5:28pm
evidently it doesnt make sense because that is all i have been trying to say all afternoon
Jennie
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Thu, 08-17-2006 - 5:39pm
i guess what i find odd is that in an entire school system every family celebrated the holiday in the same way with the same foods. i have always known people who didnt celebrate thanksgiving the same way as others, with the same traditions or the same foods. i have a friend whose family always has a huge thanksgiving gettogether, they NEVER have turkey and dressing because no one likes it, but it doesnt change or diminish the celebration of thanksgiving.
Jennie
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Thu, 08-17-2006 - 5:47pm
but dont you think it is just as possible that some people have no "beloved" foods from childhood. my mom is a wonderful cook who fixed homeade meals pretty much every day but i cant think of one specific food that i loved more than another.
Jennie
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Thu, 08-17-2006 - 5:49pm
Is it really strange that in 1979 in Arlington, TX, an entire class of third garders had turkey and stuffing or ham, with mashed potatoes, sweet potatoes, pecan pie, etc.? Not that everyone had the exact same menu, but that the kids all celebrated Thanksgiving in some way? As I said, the kids were comparing menus.
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Thu, 08-17-2006 - 5:56pm
so are you saying that your father had no food that day so he couldnt talk about what he ate? and knowing arlington texas and the diverse population in that area i would find it odd that they all celebrated in the same way
Jennie
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Thu, 08-17-2006 - 6:01pm
but that is a personal thing. i find nothing special about preparing meals together with anyone, i really dont enjoy cooking much at all. i do it because my family needs to eat. if i could feed them healthy meals without going broke i would never cook again and wouldnt feel i was missing a thing
Jennie
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Thu, 08-17-2006 - 6:02pm

Yes I will admit that's talent! I have a friend that nursed on her back with the baby on top , that amazed me too.

Amy

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Registered: 11-11-2005
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 6:05pm

My dh, not my dad. And he and his siblings ate Ramen noodles while their parents were at work. Not exactly a Thanksgiving celebration.

I find it quite remarkable that you can't understand that celebrating Thanksgiving with a large meal is a universal undertaking for most families, and that a kid whose family knew nothing about that tradition and did not celebrate it would feel left out. In 1979 in Arlington, Thanksgiving was a commonly-celebrated holiday, believe it or not. They even had a big school holiday and everything. (In fact, we still celebrate it today.) Maybe it is just where you live that kids haven't heard of it.

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