attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 06-02-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 7:41pm
I agree with that completely. However, to that point, I think that our govt needs to get on board with the reality of what it takes to BF and increase FMLA from 12 weeks to 16 or 20 to avoid problems. I know plenty of WOHM who continued BF while working, but I also know plenty who quit nursing when they rtw because it caused so many nursing issues. I think working mothers (and their children) deserve the right to have BF well established before being forced to rtw. JMHO.
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Registered: 06-09-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 8:31pm

"No, I knew from beginning, as I stated, that I knew I didn't want to breast feed, and had made it perfectly clear to this nurse that it is not what I wanted to do. Yet, she continuosly went against my wished to try to make me breast feed, and practically put my nipple in my son's mouth"

Did you let someone at the hospital know of this nurse's behavior?

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 8:39pm
I am sitting here scratching my head after reading that comment too. DD got her braided while we were on vacation and the lady who braided her hair was very skilled. She makes her living do that, so I guess it worked for her.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 10:12pm
Then why are you still posting about it?
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Registered: 05-07-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 10:22pm
Did you report this nurse?

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If you can
Wake me gently
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Pull my sleeve
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Is where I wanna leave

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 11:06pm
Well, much I'd love to take credit for talent, I have to admit that it really has more to do with having really long breasts.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 11:16pm

like I said above, perhaps be more clear in your posts. You said you will not feed him snacks unless you "know" he is hungry. How does one "know".

Aren't there days when you as an adult are "more" hungry than others? I know myself somedays I feel hungry all the time...and other days I have to "remind" myself that it's almost dinner time.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 11:18pm
You didn't breastfeed because of a nurse? Wow.
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Registered: 01-23-2006
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 11:21pm
While I can understand a nurse talking to me about the benefits of breast feedeing, I absoultely can not, and will not, be spoken to like I'm an idiot, and that's what she was doing. I knew the benefits of breast feeding, I spoke about the choices I had with formula with my son's pediatrician before he was even born, and I decided that with my lifestyle (full time job, in college, single mom), it was better that he be formula fed. As selfish as this sounds, I was thinking of me, and the fact that I would not have time to pump milk, or do actual feedings, I simply had too much going on. I see how this will seem to some of ya'll..."why did you have a baby if you did not feel you had the time for one, and could not devote yourself soley to him?". My pregnancy WAS an accident, totally my fault, but I chose to have him, and keep him, because I knew despite what I had going on, I could be a great mother. In turn, it also turns out that I bring a lot of work home so I can leave my office early enough to spend quality time with Kaden, and I started taking on=-line courses instead of in class courses. Anyway, that was totally off topic. This nurse did more than one thing to make me inadequate as a mother, and I wrote a letter to the hospital about her. Her attitude the whole time she was my nurse was "well, she's young, so she must know nothing, so I'm going to push on her what I believe". Lucky for me, I had my mother there to support me in all of my decissions, and my mother to turn to for advice. Had this nurse simply suggested breast feeding to me, explaining the benefits, I would have been fine. But she didn't, she tried to make me feel like I would be a bad mother if I didn't. In my opinion, that is not what a nurse is supposed to do.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 08-17-2006 - 11:24pm

Well I have to say that in my family, the food that is placed on the table *does* matter. Because I care about my family's health.

Dj

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