attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 10-31-2005
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 10:13am

"Not all women's breastmilk is superior to milk."

This sounds like one of those myths encouraged by the formula companies (who are even now marketing formula for lactating women), unless of course you're talking about women who are on certain drugs or are drunk. Can you give another example of what you are talking about? For example, when my DS was not gaining weight fast enough in his first two months, my pediatrician suggested that my milk might not have enough fat in it, which the research indicates is completely inaccurate. In fact, the problem was transfer, not the milk itself.

Cow's milk was designed for baby cows; human milk was designed for baby humans.

There is a reason premature babies are more likely to survive with breast milk than formula.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 10:15am
Does it really matter? I mean when you compare a fruit salad and a sandwich versus a chicken breast and salad? I don't think anyone is saying chocolate cake and ice cream versus chicken breast, and vegetables
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 10:16am
What's so "wow"? I wouldn't work outside the home either if it prevented me from being the kind of mother I want to be. Providing breastmilk for my children was part of being the kind of mother I wanted to be, so it would have been a deal-breaker for me, too -- I wouldn't have accepted a job that precluded me being able to breastfeed. That's easy for me to say because we have never been particularly dependent upon my income as a family, though.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 10:23am
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 10:26am
I'd force myself to get over my limited ability to pump before I'd quit work.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 10:29am
It doesn't work, and it doesn't prove your point at all. No one has posited that the people are unimportant or even secondary to the ritual aspect of a meal, be it a regular weekday supper or a special holiday meal.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 10:32am
Evidently your family has no food traditions that bind them together. That's fine, but that's not how a lot of our families work now, and evidently, have worked for hundreds of years. I *like* being enmeshed in a linear tradition that dates back to the days before my ancestors left Europe. It might be a reason why, as a Christian, I prefer traditional services to contemporary services. There is something comforting to me about doing what Christians have done, in more or less the way they have done it, for a thousand years or more. Other people hate that kind of thing, Each to her own.
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Registered: 06-09-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 10:36am

"This sounds like one of those myths encouraged by the formula companies (who are even now marketing formula for lactating women), unless of course you're talking about women who are on certain drugs or are drunk. Can you give another example of what you are talking about?"

It's not a myth that cocaine and PCP abusers breastmilk is not superior to formula.

Another example is a woman who is undernourished and has a diet lacking in vitamins and minerals. Another example is an excessive caffeine drinker. A mother who smokes passes on nicotine to her baby via breastmilk. Certain women who take medications for chemotherapy, arthritis and kidney disease. Certain other medications that women take could be a cause for concern.

So, not all breastmilk is superior to formula.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 10:43am
No one has to say that to prove my point. The point I was making was in the realm of things FAMILY is the reason for the holidays. The food falls a very distance second to that in our family.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 10:53am
I think that's what everyone here is saying. Did you think otherwise?

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