attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 10:56am
I don't think so at all. There was even one post that stated if the traditional foods weren't served that would be a betrayal. So no I don't think that is what everyone here has been saying at all.
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Registered: 01-23-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 10:57am
Why don't you go back and read my posts...I know I stated that I had already decided that I was not going to breastfeed. You sure like to respond without reading things all the way through, don't you?
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 10:58am

Formula is not "good" for a baby. It is a good alternative but not even remotely close to bm. SO, to say that not ff'ng is not detrimental to a baby is wrong.


Formula is good for a baby it is just not "as" good.

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Registered: 01-23-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 11:01am
I know when my son is hungry because he will lead me by my hand to the kitchen to get me to help him get what he wants. When he's not hungry, and just wants to eat for the sake of eating, he stands in the kitchen pointing at anything and everything he can think of to point at that he may be able to eat. How do I know he's not really hungry when he does this? Because after weeks of getting him what he wanted, he would sit there and play with it, not even eat it, then tell me he wants something else, I would get it, he would do the same thing, this would go on and on and on. I learned that usually the foods he picked out were ones that felt funny, and were kind of fun to squish around in your hands. Why do you doubt me so much that I know my son's behaviorisms? I KNOW when my son is hungry because he acts in different ways.
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Fri, 08-18-2006 - 11:02am
But a betrayal of whom? To me, there is a part of a of hospitality that means you go out of your way to please your guests and make them comfortable. It would be a betrayal of the principles of hospitality to me not to do that. For instance, I work in a university where there are always a lot of grad students and visiting faculty and even foreign faculty and students who have no family in the area and some who have never experienced an "authentic American Thanksgiving dinner." So we usually have at least half a dozen people over celebrating the occasion with our family. I think they'd feel betrayed if I said, "We're just here to enjoy each other, the food doesn't matter...have a bowl of Cheerios and a banana." No, one of the ways we share who we are is by sharing food and culture that is important to us.
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Registered: 01-23-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 11:03am
I wrote a letter to the hospital with my mom's help (she works there in the business office). I explained what she did and how she made me feel. I recieved back a letter of apology, but I'm not sure what actions were taken against that nurse.
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Registered: 01-23-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 11:04am
Most definately! I wrote a letter to them, though I'm not sure of any actions taken to correct her.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 11:06am
You are sending out mixed messages...you said that if the lady had been less forceful, you would have listened to what she had to say...or that if your pediatrician had been more forceful, he might have convinced you to breasfeed. And then you say you'd already decided to bottle feed. So it's difficult, even now, to tell what you really wanted these medical professionals to say and do. I don't blame them for being confused.
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Registered: 01-23-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 11:07am
You have just confused me. By me asking you to read all the posts before asking me a question (which was answered many times previously), you go on the defense? A little touchy are we?
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 11:13am
I eat a traditional Thanksgiving meal but I don't look at it is a comfort.

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