attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:16pm
I hear ya. When I nursed my son it was VERY difficult not to quit. I got the yeast MULTIPLE times, and a couple of infections. After about 3 months of that I was just about to lose it. Once I got rid of all that it was great. However I don't see any issue with formula. I think it is an individual choice for each parent. My husband has Crohn's disease and his GI doc did recommend that I nurse our children to help deter that being an issue in our children. I am not hero because I nursed.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:19pm

Sure you could have. You FF and your children are healthy, and that's great. That does not, however, make formula feeding the better choice.

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:20pm

This is just my personal opinion but I am a very honest person. I just could not see past whipping out my breast and putting it in my baby's mouth. It's hard to explain and maybe it's how I was raised but I didn't need to do any research on it because I know I could have never done it.

As for future research pertaining to breastfeeding, there are no more babies in my future, so that point is moot.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:20pm
Actually, you have made some very global statements about what food is and isn't and the dangers of what you term "comfort eating." But if you want to stop talking, please don't keep going on my account.
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Registered: 06-09-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:21pm
For me it was the better choice.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:22pm
Oh yes it does. If breastfeeding made her resentful of her children it is the better choice.
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:22pm
And that is all that matters.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:23pm

It's not cruel, it's fact. Maybe you missed the post where I mentioned that I primarily FF my DD. I guess I'm slamming myself. No - I'm just able to admit that I did not make the best choice in that situation.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:23pm
No I didn't make global comments. Every time I disagree with your statements you go off to another form of the discussion. I didn't say I wanted to stop talking. Just try to stick to the original topic/debate and it makes it a lot easier to keep track of.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:24pm
If you live you live in the real world and adopt a substandard practice after considering all the alternatives and scenarios, why in heaven's name would you feel guilty about it? I've done a lot of things for my kids that might not have been the absolute "best" alternative, but were "good enough" in the real world. There isn't any Mommy Guilt to tap into.

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