attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:25pm
Making a blanket statement that BF is better than FF is not true. Lots of mothers have issues with their bodies and BM is not good. Drugs, alcohol, and lack of diet are NOT better than breastmilk. A mother that is resentful of her child that is nursing is NOT better than formula. No matter how you slice it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:27pm
You don't think LLL bf nazis try to guilt moms into not ff?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:27pm

Myself included - I FF my first after a few short weeks. I'm not tapping into mommy guilt, but I am going to debate any poster who says that formula is not sub-standard. It's simply not true.

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Registered: 11-11-2005
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:30pm
If bf makes someone resentful, that person clearly has some underlying issue. Rather than deporive the child of the benefits of bm, why not address the underlying issues so the motehr can overcome those issues?
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Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:30pm
OK, here's the original topic. You say you didn't want your children to associate food with comfort. How did you prevent it when they were infants?
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Registered: 10-31-2005
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:31pm

"This is just my personal opinion but I am a very honest person. I just could not see past whipping out my breast and putting it in my baby's mouth. It's hard to explain and maybe it's how I was raised but I didn't need to do any research on it because I know I could have never done it."

Just as some moms who bf see a bottle as a very unnatural way to feed a child. It doesn't make us militant bf'ers, just more primitive perhaps, or more accepting of our bodies' nurturing capabilities. Tied to Mother Earth or something. :)

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Registered: 11-11-2005
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:32pm
Is "LLL bf nazi" a term of art that applies to all LLL members?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:34pm

I could never have exclusively breastfed because I would have come to resent being tied to my child around the clock.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:35pm
Of course not.

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Registered: 11-11-2005
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:38pm
But bf doesn't tie you down. Maybe you just have to overcome some of those ideas, or learn easier ways to bf (while laying down, for example). It doesn't have to be hard if you are willing to relax.

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