attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:38pm
I think that it would be best for everyone if this was dropped now. There has already been a warning from the CM and the thread will get closed if it continues. Please be aware that many people can get a "black mark" from posting in a closed thread even if they haven't said anything that violates TOS. The poster in question is unquestionably NOT the poster she was accused of being. Another poster wrote a post that was an impersonation of that poster. That post was a TOS violation and, accordingly, removed. That should end this issue.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:38pm
Of course it ties you down.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:39pm

You know what, Felicia? There's some principle of debating that says that the person who brings up the Nazis lost the debate already. It's an offensive term.

But....yes, I do believe that breastfeeding advocates use "guilt" as a tactic to try to get women to try to avoid formula. But my point is, if you have carefully considered the evidence for and against formula feeding in your particular situation, and have decided that in your particular situation, formula feeding is the better alternative, what is there left to feel guilty about?

Guilt is a horrible feeling that is there to let people know they have done something wrong and to prompt them to make amends or change there ways. In that sense, it's productive. But if you have done the right thing in your situation, the question remains? Why would you feel guilty about doing the right thing? And how can anyone else impose a feeling of guilty about doing the right thing on someone else?

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Registered: 11-11-2005
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:39pm
No. I called a complete strangers through a LLL number in the phone book to ask for bf advice when I came down with pnuemonia when ods was 4 months old and I needed advcie on how to keep up bf. She was very gracious and helpful. That is the only direct contact I had with LLL through bf-ing three kids. I asked; they helped.
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Registered: 11-11-2005
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:42pm
Infants in general tie you down, then, because they need to be taken care of and can't just be left alone on their own.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:42pm

I apologize for the term "nazi."

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:43pm

Yes, indeed, but if you use EBM or FF, you can be away from the infant for longer periods and thus be less tied down.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:46pm
Hey I don't disagree. However by the time those issues are addressed, I doubt BFing will be possible anymore. Some women view it as gross. Me personally I don't. I BF both of my children. However I don't slam women that do. I remember my mother telling me that when I was a baby they encouraged mothers to FF not BF. They thought FF was better for babies. That might have some effect on women who do not want to BF.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:47pm
I didn't nurse them when they were scared, tired, or cranky. I nursed them when they were hungry.
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Registered: 06-02-2006
Fri, 08-18-2006 - 3:48pm
You are probably right.

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