attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 9:05am
So, all of the pro BF websites are reliable and anti-BF sites are not. Got it.
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Registered: 06-09-2006
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 9:06am
Is there reliable data to back that up?
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Registered: 06-09-2006
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 9:15am
Okay, I have found it. It passes through the BM.
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Registered: 06-02-2006
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 9:29am

There is much medical evidence, here is just one link to get you started. I am amazed that your ped didnt inform you of all of the non-nutritive benefits of nursing!

"Breastfeeding during a painful procedure such as a heel-stick for newborn screening provides analgesia to infants.81,82"

http://aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/pediatrics;115/2/496%20

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 9:30am

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Hey different strokes right? My children weren't that way at all. They nursed when they were hungry and they snuggled with me when they needed to be snuggled. I am not really sure about the reconnecting part. However if I had been out that day when my little ones saw me if they were hungry they nursed if they weren't they didn't.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 9:32am
IT is another one of those militant nursing mothers that think they are somehow superior to a mother that doesn't nurse. What I find funny is that she said the non nursing mothers. How does she know? Maybe those mother's do nurse and are like me and DON'T use nursing as a tool to get a child to stop crying. Maybe some of those women had children that were adopted and that woman CAN'T nurse that child. Stories like that one are just absolutely absurd.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 9:36am
No I never nursed my children to calm them down. My daughter nursed shortly after her tear duct procedure because she hadn't eaten that morning. When she woke up she was hungry. However I didn't use that to calm her. She woke up fine. No, I never used nursing to calm my crying children. If they were hungry they nursed, if they were upset, scared, or just cranky I just cuddled, swaddled them.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 9:38am

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I have to ask you. Do you really think a toddler was in fear of his life? He was scared from the noise and sirens. Toddlers have no idea what a tornado is or the dangers they present.

As for what you think is ok with God that is fine by me. I am not criticizing anyone. What I am saying is that using nursing to calm a baby is not what I did. What are these babies that are so upset and cranky going to do if mom is out shopping? What is dad going to do to soothe them? Think he can nurse?

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 9:39am
So?
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 9:40am
So you don't think that the two can be related? I will ask you as well. What is dad going to do if mom is out? Baby starts crying and is very upset. Not hungry just upset, or cranky? How is dad or a babysitter going to comfort that child? We didn't have that problem.

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