attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Sat, 08-19-2006 - 7:02pm

My car is not "substandard" because it's not a Rolls Royce. My house is not "substandard" because it's not a mansion.

Everything that isn't best in class isn't substandard.

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Sat, 08-19-2006 - 7:28pm
I've met some pretty militant LLL's, but I've also met a few really nice one's. I never joined myself, but when I was having trouble getting my first DS to latch well, a friend of my mother's (who was a LLL leader) was a tremendous help, and not the least bit militant. I don't think it's fair to judge a whole group based on a few individuals. JMHO.
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Sat, 08-19-2006 - 7:32pm
Oh and for the record, I would have at least attempted to nurse if I had adopted. Why the need to nurse? It's proven to be a benefit. Don't we all want to right by our kids? Besides, what makes you qualified to judge what "most people" would or wouldn't do?
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Registered: 06-09-2006
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 7:46pm

"Besides, citing illegal drug use as a reason to FF doesnt much futher the debate. An illegal drug user shouldnt even have custody of their own children much less BF them."

So, do you think just because an illegal drug user shouldn't have custody of their child then that's the case? Where do you live? I'd like to show you some neighborhoods in the Bronx and Brooklyn....

So, if your breastmilk was superior to the formula I poured from a can, how are your children "better" than mine?

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 8:13pm

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Again different strokes. Go have at it!

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The NEED to nurse isn't a benefit.

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Yes we do. That doesn't mean you have to nurse.

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I don't really know where you got this statement. As I didn't say anything about what most would or wouldn't do. Read before you try to slam.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Sat, 08-19-2006 - 8:16pm

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Sad isn't it? Social services in this country is grossly understaffed, and the case loads are enormous. So many children have drug addicted mothers, or mothers with alcoholism. All living in that environment.

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I can honestly say that I did BF. If your children are better than mine or vice versa I doubt that milk had anything to do with it.

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Sat, 08-19-2006 - 8:29pm

"I can honestly say that I did BF. If your children are better than mine or vice versa I doubt that milk had anything to do with it."

Exactly.

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Sat, 08-19-2006 - 8:36pm
Oh definitely - did it at every shot. Worked within seconds. And you know what? I have a total non-eater, someone who will pretty much never associate food with comfort (if I were speaking in dog terms, I would say he's not "food motivated" at all), lol.
Kerry with Campbell Elizabeth 11.03.06 and Benjamin Brady 12.10.03
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Sat, 08-19-2006 - 8:37pm

BM has been linked to improved IQ, decreased rate of illness, fewer allegies, and increased social adjustment. However, I don't know your kids, nor do I choose to compare mine to yours.

As to the illegal drug users, I wouldn't think trust their abilities to FF succesfully either so there really is no comparison in BM vs formula there.

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Sat, 08-19-2006 - 8:41pm

I'm sorry, you said "I can bet you that the vast majority of mothers that adopt aren't nursing." How again is that different from judging what most people would or wouldnt do?

I'm sorry if you feel that my choosing to BF is an attack on you. I simply do not care what other mothers do. I feel that by BF, I am giving my kids the best that I can. If you feel that you are giving your kids the best you can by FF, more power to you.

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