attachment parenting

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attachment parenting
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17pm

A woman I know (I used to work with her dh) practices "attachment parenting". Here is a definition (for those who don't know what it is):

"Attachment Parenting includes respecting your child's needs, feeding on demand, and answering your baby's cries. Other parts of Attachment Parenting include co-sleeping, nursing on demand, sling or other baby carrier wearing, and cloth diapering. Not all Attachment Parents practice all of the above, but never the less love the idea of Attachment Parenting and comforting their children.

Attachment parenting uses mild discipline methods and avoids all physical or emotional punishment, such as inflicting shame on a child for inappropriate behavior. Children are encouraged and allowed to sleep with their parents, and you treat your bed as the family bed. Meeting your child's needs according to the child's time frame during the early years of development is an essential part of attachment parenting. Children will be allowed to grow and learn at their own pace and not according to standard time frames."

What do you all think of attachment parenting?

I don't see attachment parenting as something a WOH parent could do, or could they? What do u think?

I am also curious to see if SAHPs vs/ WOHPs will have different opionions on this topic.

If anyone here practices attachment parenting - was your decision to do so closely linked with your decision to be a SAHP?

josee

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 3:01pm

"I still don't see how you justify calling every woman who is educated about the benefits of bf "militant." Are you a "militant FF'er" just because you chose formula?"

No, militant BF'ers believe that *all* BM is superior to FF. Which is what I said in a previous post.

"Percentage wise, most American women live neither in a "little supposed upscale world" or "the slums.""

And....?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 3:04pm

My FF DD is more attached to me than my DS who nursed to 3 years old. However, my DD does have a comfort item (a blanket), and my DS doesn't. My DS is more attached to my DH than to me, and my DD is more attached to me, regardless of the fact that she we pretty much bottle fed her equally (we both worked part time and kept her home for the first year). There's so much more to attachment / bonding than feeding method.

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Registered: 10-31-2005
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 3:18pm

"No, militant BF'ers believe that *all* BM is superior to FF. Which is what I said in a previous post."

And no one on this thread has argued that BM contaminated with PCP or crack, for example, is superior to formula, so where are all the "militant BF'ers" you were addressing?

You said "militant BF's" would change their tune if they went down to the slums--my point was that the women on Ivillage's SAH v. Work debate board are unlikely to live in the slums. My comments on breastfeeding were intended for the mainstream audience.

You qualified, "Some breast milk is better than formula." You're still wrong.

Most breast milk is better than formula.

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Registered: 06-09-2006
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 3:30pm

"And no one on this thread has argued that BM contaminated with PCP or crack, for example, is superior to formula, so where are all the "militant BF'ers" you were addressing?"

There are quite a few in this thread.

"You qualified, "Some breast milk is better than formula." You're still wrong.

Most breast milk is better than formula."

Depends on where you live, I guess.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 3:41pm
Again if you dont see how there are some militant BFing mothers I dont know what to say. Like the example that in an ER all the nursing mothers sat quietly nursing their babies while the FF babies and their mothers were in chaos. Absolutely ridiculous nonsense garbage. I am not buying that line of bull for a second.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 3:42pm
I have got to say we didn't have that problem. Sure when my children were hungry daddy just wouldn't do. However when it was comfort time either one of us worked just as well as the other. Glad I didn't nurse to soothe our children. I nursed them when they were hungry period.
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Tue, 08-22-2006 - 4:16pm
I'm sorry that your children never got to experience the sweetness of nursing for comfort the way nature (or God) intended.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 4:23pm

See, that's not the way I read it. Yes, they were using two different methods of comforting their children, but I never read "chaos" into the paragraph you posted. I think you were looking to be offended.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 4:24pm

I'm with you. I'll never stop smoking, drinking, and will never exercise and I don't care what anyone says. My grandmother lived to be 120 and did all those things...

LOL.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 4:26pm

Just trying to get a point across to all the militant BF'ers that not *all* BM is superior to formula. In your little supposed upscale world it might be. But, come down to the slums and you might be singing a different tune."

The less well of financially someone is, the more they should BF. Its cheaper, far better for their health and the health of their child, and if there is a power outage, etc. the kid still eats perfect healthy food. I would have *hated* to be a formula fed baby in the astrodome in New Orleans...

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