being a parent can be overwhelming?

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being a parent can be overwhelming?
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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 10:58am

I was reading another thread on this board and it got me thinking.

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 1:26pm
Well good news is she lives 3 hours from me and has never been to my house.

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 1:28pm

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 1:44pm
I love you Susannah! Great post!

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 1:49pm
I agree, things can get overwhelming for everyone. But I also think that most of the time, when people ask me how things are going, all they want to hear is "fine."

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 1:54pm

<I agree, things can get overwhelming for everyone. But I also think that most of the time, when people ask me how things are going, all they want to hear is "fine.">


You are right on the money there.

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 2:09pm

Ah, thank-you for that! I have a neighbor who used to always comment about how easy my child-free lifestyle was and how crazy it is with her kids, what she did not know was that I was dealing with some infertility issues and would have LOVED to be overwhelmed with children. I have since been blessed with a baby, and now all I hear is how easy it is to have an infant, and once he's in school I'll know what it's really like to be stressed. I guess I can't win!

I think it's great when people can be supportive of each other, whether you can sympathize or empathize, all humans want is to feel valued. And when you feel overwhelmed, sometimes all you need to do to feel better is complain (vent!) just a little bit.

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 2:30pm
I do agree we all need to vent at times. Don't feel bad about venting about the braggy mom. It was your turn.

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 3:42pm

I think you're right on the money when you observe that people make these stupid or seemingly heartless comments because they're trying to relate on some level. I know I have been guilty of it (and later wanted to stuff a sock in my mouth and swallow it). So when someone makes a comment to me that seems insensitive, I just do my best to take it as well intended and say thank you. And when someone I know is grieving, if I can't think of anything comforting to say, I try to stick to "I'm sorry."


Unless it's my MIL, who needs to be the center of attention and therefore tries to one-up everyone when they have a vent by bringing up her mother's suicide. Yes, thanks, that's very helpful...

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Wed, 04-09-2008 - 9:05am

I was more overwhelmed by my single life than I ever have been as a parent.

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Wed, 04-09-2008 - 9:28am