Yes, I'd have to sell my tiaras and the house in the country. Woe is me.
(For the sarcastically challenged, we live in a tiny rented flat and have just about enough to make ends meet. Squeaking by.)
"Justice, fairness, and the Aquarian way"
Siggy quote courtesy of
It's not ALL about the luck of the draw, but there is absolutely an element of luck involved in being able to live on one salary.
I agree with Harmony, I see this as an explanation, not an excuse. For example, the house payment one, that's my personal sitch. We have a pretty high house payment, and thus I have to work, and am stuck. It would be near to impossible to get rid of my house, unless we want to lose money. Besides, as a long-term investment, it makes no sense at all. If I could go back in time I'd not buy this house, but alas I cannot. Partly we made a bad financial choice, and I own that fully, but we also did not have the foresight to know the entire market was gonna crash and vastly deflate our house value. And, we didn't buy at the peak either, we bought when the market was still normal. I don't think this is a "crutch," it's just, reality. And the reality is, I'm stuck. I think owning that, and recognizing it qualifies as "making my bed and lying in it."
I keep focusing on this part of your post, Harmony...
It seems so contradictory to me... Based on the barriers that you had in place WRT WOH vs. SAH (I have/had a lot of the same ones, so I get it), I don't think there's any way you *could* have possessed foresight. How can you possess foresight for something you never could've forseen? Sometimes, I think you can't possess foresight, until you have hindsight. ;)
IOW, I can see how you possessed foresight the second time around, but that was because you had the benefit of hindsight from the first time around. Learned from your mistakes, so to speak...