I think it is more than "falling in love with a man that can support a sahp". I find that a little offputting.
I know for DH and I, we decided that we would both work if we had children. (I *may* have uttered the words Never and SAH in the same sentence.) BUT, we also decided that we would save one of our salaries outright and 401k contribution of the other salary. We did that after we had children. We decided that we didn't want huge house and the mortgage payment that came with it. We bought good non flashy cars. We had friends that decided to buy bigger houses and go on fancier vacations. We saved. We are naturally non spenders. We lived in a 750 sq foot house. Then we moved to our 1800 sq ft house.
We are very lucky to have been born into families that valued educations and we were both able to graduate without loans. We were also able to get good paying jobs as a result. We were also, both ,lucky to have been born into families that taught their children good financial planning and to pay as you go.
There is quite a bit of multigenerational luck involved in our lives, but there is also some good decision making that came along too. I wouldn't boil it down to "falling in love with a man who makes a high salary" though.
Where the luck comes in is that both my SIL's just happened to fall in love with a man who was able to support the family entirely whereas I fell in love with a man who was not able to do that.
Does that make it clearer?
that makes a little more sense.
It's not that the husband has to make a ton of money. He does need to be able to support the family on his income though, whatever income level that is.
I agree if you have a two parent household one parent can SAH at almost any income level, however, for some lower income levels will rule out the SAH option. For those at higher income levels they are less likely to run into that problem.
I think it has to do with the money giving more options.
Family can live on one income. They have two options. They can be a WOH/SAH family or they can be a dual WOH family.
Family cannot live on one income. Their only option is to be a dual WOH family.
It is not true that all families who can live on one income have a SAHP, but it is true that only families who can live on one income have that option.
Knowing nothing about these woman I assume that they fell in love with their DH's not their income. Since the income was high enough for them to have a an option they took the option that they preferred, SAH. If the income was not enough for them to have an option then they would have WOH.
Yes, I understand what you are saying, but what if the man you fell in love with was a musician, just loves to play music, happy to play on Saturday nights at a local club, and spends his days writing songs he doesn't want to share?
"t's my opinion when you know SAH is something you really want for your family, you can afford yourselves that at almost any income level. assuming it doesn't deprive you or your family. "
What reads that is does depend on income.