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Big Fat Lie
| Sat, 09-11-2004 - 1:41pm |
I'm the mother of 2. I have 2 boys, one is 2 1/2, the other is 4 months old. Before I had my second baby, I was a full time nurse and was making more money than my husband. That being said, he never really had a problem with it. The extra money helped us pay for extras. Well, I decided after the second child, that I would stay at home most of the week. I work only 2 days a week, 6 hours a day. Now all of the sudden, I do EVERYTHING. He does not get up at night with this baby, he does not keep the house clean with me, NOTHING I do is important enough. (He plays softball once a week, goes out with the guys after etc.) I do not do anything. (Actually I get to go to Weight Watchers on Fridays while my mom watches the kids.) I have no life anymore, and his life is fantastic! I tried to take a class, but he wouldn't help with the kids enough so I couldn't stick with it.
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!

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Who wouldn't want to spend quality time with his kids and my be absent off shopping, doing something for me.
I knew your ideas were screwed up. But this shows they are totally off the planet.
So if the father wants one on one time then he should give his wife permission to run out to shop? But if he doesn't want one on one time, she should hire a sitter at 10 dollars an hour while she shops and he sits there in his chair with the sitter & the child?
Ridiculous doesn't even fit that description and I can't type what does because it would be a TOS violation.
Paige
2 hours a week for cleaning.
We sporadically clean the rest of the week. You know, make up the bed before you go get in the shower. Pick up the toothpaste & put it in the cabinet when you are done. Load your dishes in the dw & not sit them in the sink (dd even does all these).
I do sweep every day after dd goes to bed. Not because I can't do it when she is up. Because I don't want anyone walking over my tracks I've m ade w/the sweeper.
Paige
Oh, and now that I think about it, I would be fascinated to hear how one might go about taking care of all the weekend cooking and cleaning (kitchen, kid's stuff etc,) during the WOHPs working hours during the week. And here all these years I thought that we were going to be stuck with housework on the weekend no matter how much dh and I do during the week!
Laura
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
Then when it was time to get DS ready for bed, DH discovered we were out of pullups. Called me all in a dither . . . I said, "Welcome to my world."
Then he called me at 7:30 AM to say he and DS were running late and where were the instructions for packing lunch? (Rolling my eyes here.)
When I arrived home, he was tired and wiped out. Said he appreciated everything I do and that I obviously put alot of time into taking care of him and DS. He said I'm welcome to go away anytime, but not anytime soon. hahahahaha
outside_the_box_mom
No, she cannot.
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