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Big Fat Lie
| Sat, 09-11-2004 - 1:41pm |
I'm the mother of 2. I have 2 boys, one is 2 1/2, the other is 4 months old. Before I had my second baby, I was a full time nurse and was making more money than my husband. That being said, he never really had a problem with it. The extra money helped us pay for extras. Well, I decided after the second child, that I would stay at home most of the week. I work only 2 days a week, 6 hours a day. Now all of the sudden, I do EVERYTHING. He does not get up at night with this baby, he does not keep the house clean with me, NOTHING I do is important enough. (He plays softball once a week, goes out with the guys after etc.) I do not do anything. (Actually I get to go to Weight Watchers on Fridays while my mom watches the kids.) I have no life anymore, and his life is fantastic! I tried to take a class, but he wouldn't help with the kids enough so I couldn't stick with it.
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!

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Sorry, I don't agree.
And it's good for everyone. It's good for dad to have alone time with the kids, it's good for mom to get out alone (and know that she's not "on the clock" like she would be with a sitter). And the opposite is true.
Spouses can't do this for eachother?
Meldi
And the fact that it's coming out of your keyboard doesn't "imply rightness" (sic)
The fact I cooked dinner in the evening when I WOHPT just made up for the fact I curled up with a good book or napped while the kids napped. The amount of work needed in a day is a few hours at best. That it's spread out over the whole day doesn't make it more work. I didn't work a 12 hour day because I cooked breakfast at 7:00 and did dinner dishes at 7:00. I worked a little here and there thoroughout the day but did a lot of playing with the kids in between. Spreading 3 hours of work over 12 hours doesn't mean you worked 12 hours. You still worked 3.
Edited 9/18/2004 6:55 pm ET ET by grimalkinskeeper
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