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Big Fat Lie
| Sat, 09-11-2004 - 1:41pm |
I'm the mother of 2. I have 2 boys, one is 2 1/2, the other is 4 months old. Before I had my second baby, I was a full time nurse and was making more money than my husband. That being said, he never really had a problem with it. The extra money helped us pay for extras. Well, I decided after the second child, that I would stay at home most of the week. I work only 2 days a week, 6 hours a day. Now all of the sudden, I do EVERYTHING. He does not get up at night with this baby, he does not keep the house clean with me, NOTHING I do is important enough. (He plays softball once a week, goes out with the guys after etc.) I do not do anything. (Actually I get to go to Weight Watchers on Fridays while my mom watches the kids.) I have no life anymore, and his life is fantastic! I tried to take a class, but he wouldn't help with the kids enough so I couldn't stick with it.
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!

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Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Hollie, where have you been?
This is what happens: Both parents are working and they have a baby. The totally selfish, totally hormonal (because no reasonable human being would want to stay home) totally irrational mother decides to stay home. She greets her DH at the door one night with the news that she put in her resignation. Since he sees no value in staying home and it hasn't been discussed, he now is being taken advantage of and having to be the sole provider. Because he is now the sole provider, he buys a GPS tracking system to implant on his wife and a slave collar and matching shirt set for him and his wife. Then, the wife stays home and does nothing. Sure the children are cared for but the house is a wreck. He comes home and she expects him to watch the children and remove the slave collar while she goes to women's group at church or goes to the movies with a friend. He actually has to clean some dishes and bath some kids while she is socializing. The absolute horror. He earns the paycheck and he is ruler. So, he never lets her out of the house again...no sirree, Bob. He earns the money and wears the pants. He disconnects the phone, takes away the computer, deadlocks the door outside and boards up the windows. Now, she has to stay in and keep that house clean.
Then, she ends up on Oprah and tries to explain that she read on a message board that this is the way it is suppose to be..she has no rights because she earns no money.
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That would depend on where you live. Not in my neck of the woods. The only thing I hire out is the care my kids need while I'm working. The housework, yard work and care they ened the rest of the time are mine.
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