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Big Fat Lie
| Sat, 09-11-2004 - 1:41pm |
I'm the mother of 2. I have 2 boys, one is 2 1/2, the other is 4 months old. Before I had my second baby, I was a full time nurse and was making more money than my husband. That being said, he never really had a problem with it. The extra money helped us pay for extras. Well, I decided after the second child, that I would stay at home most of the week. I work only 2 days a week, 6 hours a day. Now all of the sudden, I do EVERYTHING. He does not get up at night with this baby, he does not keep the house clean with me, NOTHING I do is important enough. (He plays softball once a week, goes out with the guys after etc.) I do not do anything. (Actually I get to go to Weight Watchers on Fridays while my mom watches the kids.) I have no life anymore, and his life is fantastic! I tried to take a class, but he wouldn't help with the kids enough so I couldn't stick with it.
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!

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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Also what about the other half of my post. You keep bringing it back to mom should hire a baby sitter, what about dad. Should he also have hire a babysitter if he wants to go out during the night?
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
As an FYI, my DH and I didn't "agree" to anything. He donated half our DS' chromosones. Ergo, he is 50% responsible for DS. Which means, whether or not he "agrees" to take care of him is moot. He just does. Mostly because he's a great guy and doesn't need these spelled out for him in black and white.
outside_the_box_mom
Doesn't count as a second job for either of us if you look at the time spent.
It makes it the way it should be in t his house. A concept you can't wrap your brain around but doesn't make it any less true because you can't.
I'm not lucky. Dh & I TOGETHER are lucky.
Paige
He said he wouldn't have it the way you think it should be. Me neither.
You want to believe your mumbo jumbo, you go right ahead. I'm sure it makes you feel better to think the way you do.
Not true, but whatever.
No Grimal. It is right for dh & I. It is right in this house. I know that sticks in your crawl that othrs think and live nothing like you think they should.
From your postings, I'd not do anything at all like you. Nothing!
Paige
Meldi
Twist, twist, twist.
Paige, who has a DH that read these threads and said he wouldn't have a wife like your posts! He wants an equal, that is what he has got.
Paige
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