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Big Fat Lie
| Sat, 09-11-2004 - 1:41pm |
I'm the mother of 2. I have 2 boys, one is 2 1/2, the other is 4 months old. Before I had my second baby, I was a full time nurse and was making more money than my husband. That being said, he never really had a problem with it. The extra money helped us pay for extras. Well, I decided after the second child, that I would stay at home most of the week. I work only 2 days a week, 6 hours a day. Now all of the sudden, I do EVERYTHING. He does not get up at night with this baby, he does not keep the house clean with me, NOTHING I do is important enough. (He plays softball once a week, goes out with the guys after etc.) I do not do anything. (Actually I get to go to Weight Watchers on Fridays while my mom watches the kids.) I have no life anymore, and his life is fantastic! I tried to take a class, but he wouldn't help with the kids enough so I couldn't stick with it.
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!

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I wrote "It doesn't alleviate the responsibility from the non wage earner."
I think we both agree that both parents are responsible for supporting their family. I think the area where we differ is that I don't understand why you feel it necessary for both parents to always work at the same time regardless of how much money one makes.
Jenna
Jenna
I can easily spend 2-3 hours a DAY on housework/household tasks (not that I always do!), so I dont understand her assertion that housework only takes about 10 hrs a week max. And caring for my children involves more, imo, than me just letting them help clean. We have always done things like go to the zoo, the library, playgroups, movies, etc. Then there are daily errands to be run, financial matters to attend to, animals to care for, lawn and garden care, etc. All those things take up a full day, and my to do list is never completely empty!
And if you consider sahps who have larger families-I honestly dont know how they do it! I have a friend with 3 boys under the age of 5. She certainly does not see her daily life as *easier* than her dh's-and neither does he. And maybe that is the key in some ways, having a dh/wohp who truly understands and appreciates what a sahp *does all day*, as opposed to the kind of dh Cyndi had.
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Jenna
And why should childcare occur ONLY when the parent WANTS it? That isnt parenting. Parenting is 24/7.
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Jenna
Jenna
Jenna
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