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Big Fat Lie
| Sat, 09-11-2004 - 1:41pm |
I'm the mother of 2. I have 2 boys, one is 2 1/2, the other is 4 months old. Before I had my second baby, I was a full time nurse and was making more money than my husband. That being said, he never really had a problem with it. The extra money helped us pay for extras. Well, I decided after the second child, that I would stay at home most of the week. I work only 2 days a week, 6 hours a day. Now all of the sudden, I do EVERYTHING. He does not get up at night with this baby, he does not keep the house clean with me, NOTHING I do is important enough. (He plays softball once a week, goes out with the guys after etc.) I do not do anything. (Actually I get to go to Weight Watchers on Fridays while my mom watches the kids.) I have no life anymore, and his life is fantastic! I tried to take a class, but he wouldn't help with the kids enough so I couldn't stick with it.
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!

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You say "There's plenty of time left over to play with the kids after the housework is done."
I (and others say) "There's plenty of time left over to clean the house after you play with and educate teh kids"
The point is ... for ANY SAHM the kids should come first. IF there is time left to do some housework, it should, by all means, be done. If there isn't, so be it.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
<<What is done for 9 hours while the WOHP is away is supervision.>>
What? I think MOST SAHMs do much more than supervise their children while at home. They play with them. They teach them. They take them places, etc, etc, etc. If all a mom is providing is supervision, why even have a SAHP?
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And how, pray tell, is mom supposed to get the hosuework done while she's at the park watching her kids? FTR, I sometimes sat on my ass adn read a book while my kids played at the park. But, for the most part, I was chasingthem (playing MOMster ... sav's word for monster) or helping them up ladders or pushing them on the swings.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Don't you love it, LOL?
PumpkinAngel
And what about child care in all of this? A sahp with 3 kids under 5 is supposed to fit in 20 hours of housework each week, plus let the working parent sit on their arse when they come home and do nothing????? That adds up to a lot more than 40 hrs of work
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
You seem to be under the erroneous impression I actually CARE about your opinion of my posts.
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
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