Big Fat Lie
Find a Conversation
Big Fat Lie
| Sat, 09-11-2004 - 1:41pm |
I'm the mother of 2. I have 2 boys, one is 2 1/2, the other is 4 months old. Before I had my second baby, I was a full time nurse and was making more money than my husband. That being said, he never really had a problem with it. The extra money helped us pay for extras. Well, I decided after the second child, that I would stay at home most of the week. I work only 2 days a week, 6 hours a day. Now all of the sudden, I do EVERYTHING. He does not get up at night with this baby, he does not keep the house clean with me, NOTHING I do is important enough. (He plays softball once a week, goes out with the guys after etc.) I do not do anything. (Actually I get to go to Weight Watchers on Fridays while my mom watches the kids.) I have no life anymore, and his life is fantastic! I tried to take a class, but he wouldn't help with the kids enough so I couldn't stick with it.
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!

Pages
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Actually, they do require childcare during their naps and also while at the park.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
<<If one party has 45 more hours at home and there's 20 of housework to do,>>
they have 20 hours of housework and 30-40 hours of childcare to do ... why do you keep ignoring the fact that SAHPs have to spend time with their kids?
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
If you *dont care*, why are you debating other peoples life choices???
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
I thought you were a huge proponent of Dads spending time with the kids and having mom work so that he's more involved? But now Dads *shouldn't* spend time with the kids alone while mom (whether she works OR stays home) goes out for the evening?
I've NEVER hired a sitter to go out. Neither has DH. That's one of the most ridiculous theories I've heard. DH plays golf Saturday mornings. Um, I stay with the kids. It's voluntary. I don't mind. That's HIS TIME after working all week. He encourages me to go do things alone or with friends (though I rarely do). Everyone needs some time away from family. It's healthy. In our relationship, it doesn't matter WHO is home with the kids. And I wouldn't be married to someone for long who didn't pitch in and watch the kids from time to time so I could go do whatever...
Pages