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Big Fat Lie
| Sat, 09-11-2004 - 1:41pm |
I'm the mother of 2. I have 2 boys, one is 2 1/2, the other is 4 months old. Before I had my second baby, I was a full time nurse and was making more money than my husband. That being said, he never really had a problem with it. The extra money helped us pay for extras. Well, I decided after the second child, that I would stay at home most of the week. I work only 2 days a week, 6 hours a day. Now all of the sudden, I do EVERYTHING. He does not get up at night with this baby, he does not keep the house clean with me, NOTHING I do is important enough. (He plays softball once a week, goes out with the guys after etc.) I do not do anything. (Actually I get to go to Weight Watchers on Fridays while my mom watches the kids.) I have no life anymore, and his life is fantastic! I tried to take a class, but he wouldn't help with the kids enough so I couldn't stick with it.
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!

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I suppose when dad gets home we're supposed to go clean whatever we were supposed to have cleaned during the day while supervising our kids or go sit in the closet.
Is that your idea of supervision and parenting? That explains a lot!
Anyone with a child under the age of 5 who would bring said child to the park and then open up a book to read while said child wandered off and played would be guilty of neglect and begging for a nasty accident. Anyone who imagines being able to sit for more than 2 minutes at the park with a child under the age of 2 either hasn't the first clue about children or has never actually taken such a young child to the park.
Laura
Do you understand the concept that it isnt about people *caring* what you do. Its about debating issues.
dj
Edited 9/20/2004 1:48 am ET ET by djknappsak
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Jenna
Jenna
Now you're posting stuff that no one cares about, no one needs to hear - Adds nothing to the debate - so what's the point?
My son never walked. He *ran.* Started *running* at age 13 months. I chased him every where. I never had to put up a gate on the stairs because he was walking up and down them by 14 months. I never sat down and read a book when he was awake. I couldn't. He was *active.* The idea that I could take him to the park and sit on a bench while he played and climbed structures meant for older children is beyond belief. It is only in the last year that I can sit and read. And that's because he's seven years old.
You really need to wake up and smell the coffee. Just by reading your posts I can tell you never really spent *time* with your girls.
outside_the_box_mom
outside_the_box_mom
Meldi
It sounds to me like, in your world, the housework comes first and the kids come second.
In my world, my kids come first.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
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