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Big Fat Lie
| Sat, 09-11-2004 - 1:41pm |
I'm the mother of 2. I have 2 boys, one is 2 1/2, the other is 4 months old. Before I had my second baby, I was a full time nurse and was making more money than my husband. That being said, he never really had a problem with it. The extra money helped us pay for extras. Well, I decided after the second child, that I would stay at home most of the week. I work only 2 days a week, 6 hours a day. Now all of the sudden, I do EVERYTHING. He does not get up at night with this baby, he does not keep the house clean with me, NOTHING I do is important enough. (He plays softball once a week, goes out with the guys after etc.) I do not do anything. (Actually I get to go to Weight Watchers on Fridays while my mom watches the kids.) I have no life anymore, and his life is fantastic! I tried to take a class, but he wouldn't help with the kids enough so I couldn't stick with it.
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!

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Jenna
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
I play soccer on Sunday afternoon. Sometimes my kids want to go with me. Sometimes they don't. When they stay home someone has to stay home with them. 100% of the time it's dh. Because he's their father. And if I can't (or don't want to) watch them then he has to do it. I have never had him complain. He does ask me what time my game is so that he can plan his day.
It's not fair that a parent has to do everthing for her family and that family shows her so little respect that she cannot get a few hours to do something she likes. IMO that is not what family is about. It is about all of the members supporting the other ones. Not just mom supporting everyone around her. Regardless of work status.
Jenna
Jenna
If you could care less about others and what they do in life.....why exactly are you debating here, not to mention judging other peoples lives and calling them weird and from a different planet?
PumpkinAngel
No....I am sure I pegged it the first time and unless you go back an edit your
PumpkinAngel
Regardless of whether the mother is actually providing chilcare though she really can't be doing housework while at the park, or supervising kids in the pool, or whatever. I sometimes have plenty of time to post here because I am watching the kids in the pool. But those hours are not available to me to do houseowork either. I really have to be near the pool, not upstairs or in the laundry room. I can prepare meals while they swim since the pool area is visible and accessible from the kitchen.
I also disagree heartily about how much you can get done while a child naps. I used to be able to prepare a meal. That's it. My kids didn't sleep for long stretches of they day once they were no longer infants. Now nobody naps although I can tell them that they have to amuse themselves while I finish something.
Jenna
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