Big Fat Lie

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Registered: 10-03-2003
Big Fat Lie
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Sat, 09-11-2004 - 1:41pm
I'm the mother of 2. I have 2 boys, one is 2 1/2, the other is 4 months old. Before I had my second baby, I was a full time nurse and was making more money than my husband. That being said, he never really had a problem with it. The extra money helped us pay for extras. Well, I decided after the second child, that I would stay at home most of the week. I work only 2 days a week, 6 hours a day. Now all of the sudden, I do EVERYTHING. He does not get up at night with this baby, he does not keep the house clean with me, NOTHING I do is important enough. (He plays softball once a week, goes out with the guys after etc.) I do not do anything. (Actually I get to go to Weight Watchers on Fridays while my mom watches the kids.) I have no life anymore, and his life is fantastic! I tried to take a class, but he wouldn't help with the kids enough so I couldn't stick with it.

When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: debcote
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 6:09pm

I don't always actively play with my 5 and 2 year olds at the park.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: debcote
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 6:10pm

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Registered: 03-07-2004
In reply to: debcote
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 9:37pm
So what's the problem? If there's plenty of time after you're done playing to do housework, just do it.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
In reply to: debcote
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 9:38pm
And that proves what? That many SAHM's get of easy? So. That doesn't make it an entitlement.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
In reply to: debcote
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 9:39pm
I've said repeatedly that I"m talking about normal situations. Yes, child care is factored in.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
In reply to: debcote
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 9:39pm
Not to do your bidding.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
In reply to: debcote
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 9:40pm
If SAH stresses you out maybe you shouldn't SAH.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
In reply to: debcote
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 9:41pm
Not all day long, lol. A little here and a little there but certainly no where near 9 hours worth. Not even half of that over and above what they'd do if they WOH.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
In reply to: debcote
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 9:42pm
THAT is what I'm arguing against. The notion that the WP should come home and clean when the SAHP has all day long at home.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
In reply to: debcote
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 9:43pm
No.

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