Big Fat Lie
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Big Fat Lie
| Sat, 09-11-2004 - 1:41pm |
I'm the mother of 2. I have 2 boys, one is 2 1/2, the other is 4 months old. Before I had my second baby, I was a full time nurse and was making more money than my husband. That being said, he never really had a problem with it. The extra money helped us pay for extras. Well, I decided after the second child, that I would stay at home most of the week. I work only 2 days a week, 6 hours a day. Now all of the sudden, I do EVERYTHING. He does not get up at night with this baby, he does not keep the house clean with me, NOTHING I do is important enough. (He plays softball once a week, goes out with the guys after etc.) I do not do anything. (Actually I get to go to Weight Watchers on Fridays while my mom watches the kids.) I have no life anymore, and his life is fantastic! I tried to take a class, but he wouldn't help with the kids enough so I couldn't stick with it.
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!

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You don't expect someone else to take care of your needs. You do it yourself.
Edited 9/20/2004 9:48 pm ET ET by grimalkinskeeper
First, let's realize that not all SAHPs are moms.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
But when DAD does the same thing we are talking about (allowing mom to SAH with the kids while he goes out to do whatever), then you are fine with it.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
How much money does one family need anyway? DS gets so much more out of my being home with him than he would if I were still working.
And yes, I do the lion's share of the household chores, but DH pitches in every once in a while, I'm a homemaker, not a servant.
C
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
This choice quote along with your attitude in general makes me wonder why you ever bothered to get married.
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