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Big Fat Lie
| Sat, 09-11-2004 - 1:41pm |
I'm the mother of 2. I have 2 boys, one is 2 1/2, the other is 4 months old. Before I had my second baby, I was a full time nurse and was making more money than my husband. That being said, he never really had a problem with it. The extra money helped us pay for extras. Well, I decided after the second child, that I would stay at home most of the week. I work only 2 days a week, 6 hours a day. Now all of the sudden, I do EVERYTHING. He does not get up at night with this baby, he does not keep the house clean with me, NOTHING I do is important enough. (He plays softball once a week, goes out with the guys after etc.) I do not do anything. (Actually I get to go to Weight Watchers on Fridays while my mom watches the kids.) I have no life anymore, and his life is fantastic! I tried to take a class, but he wouldn't help with the kids enough so I couldn't stick with it.
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!

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Does your DH expect YOU to watch the kids while he goes out for breaks? And you resent it? So that's where all this is coming from?
DH *IS* my fill-in for breaks. Not every day or every week and I don't demand it from him. But he IS the one who will watch the kids while I go see a movie or attend a baby shower. That's part of his responsibility as a parent to our children.
Jenna
Jenna
Jenna
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If I cooked the way I *wanted* to all the time I'd easily take 1.5-2 hours for dinner each night. But I don't. For a myriad of reasons, but its definitely possible.
Just this weekend I splurged and made fried chicken and mashed potatoes and gravy and it took almost 2 hours from start to finish.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
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