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Big Fat Lie
| Sat, 09-11-2004 - 1:41pm |
I'm the mother of 2. I have 2 boys, one is 2 1/2, the other is 4 months old. Before I had my second baby, I was a full time nurse and was making more money than my husband. That being said, he never really had a problem with it. The extra money helped us pay for extras. Well, I decided after the second child, that I would stay at home most of the week. I work only 2 days a week, 6 hours a day. Now all of the sudden, I do EVERYTHING. He does not get up at night with this baby, he does not keep the house clean with me, NOTHING I do is important enough. (He plays softball once a week, goes out with the guys after etc.) I do not do anything. (Actually I get to go to Weight Watchers on Fridays while my mom watches the kids.) I have no life anymore, and his life is fantastic! I tried to take a class, but he wouldn't help with the kids enough so I couldn't stick with it.
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!

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Karen
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Karen
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Jenna
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"That is one of the reasons I stopped working ft. So that I could provide that for my family. "
I'm in the minority here because I'm willing to go through a lot of decreases in my daily quality of life to continue to work FT.
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You feel that a SAHP should have more responsibilities during the day than a nanny does, but that is only how you and your dh would structure it, not necessarily a universal given. Other families prefer to see the model working similarly to that of having a nanny: the SAHP acts mainly as a caregiver for the children during the day, doing light housekeeping and cleaning up after the kids and then both the SAHP and the WOHP are on duty during evenings and weekends....much in the same way that dual WOHPs do it. The only difference is that a parent is acting as a caregiver rather than dc or a nanny.
Laura
Laura
"hy do you find it so hard to imagine that other parents might also prefer to gain those advantages and have the SAHP put other activities secondary to the primary task of caring for children. "
I don't find it hard to imagine.
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I don't see that an extra 5 or 10 hours a week AH is going to make much difference either AH or at work.
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