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Big Fat Lie
| Sat, 09-11-2004 - 1:41pm |
I'm the mother of 2. I have 2 boys, one is 2 1/2, the other is 4 months old. Before I had my second baby, I was a full time nurse and was making more money than my husband. That being said, he never really had a problem with it. The extra money helped us pay for extras. Well, I decided after the second child, that I would stay at home most of the week. I work only 2 days a week, 6 hours a day. Now all of the sudden, I do EVERYTHING. He does not get up at night with this baby, he does not keep the house clean with me, NOTHING I do is important enough. (He plays softball once a week, goes out with the guys after etc.) I do not do anything. (Actually I get to go to Weight Watchers on Fridays while my mom watches the kids.) I have no life anymore, and his life is fantastic! I tried to take a class, but he wouldn't help with the kids enough so I couldn't stick with it.
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!

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I found that once ds started 1st grade I really appreciated having some more time at home. I found like I had a better handle on what was happening in school. I also found that it was easier to handle activities when I was working pt. I DID handle them when I worked ft but it was easier when I worked pt. I was working about 30 hours a week.
I think this is an area where YMMV.
Jenna
Dh & I have always cleaned on Wed nites late after our tv shows. Why should we change that when I started staying at home? We saw no point. Same goes for errands & groc shopping. That has always been done on Sat morning right after breakfast. Why should we change it? We didn't. We kept going at the same time.
I didn't sit in dd's face or hold her when she was infant all day. But I was a sahp to be with my dd. So yes, we spent our time together doing things. She had her free time. I had mine. We had our time together.
Paige
ITA
Paige
We didn't change things because my status went from woh to sah.
Paige
YMMV?
Well, I have the world's best job in terms of being child friendly and flexible and being challenging and paying well, and there's no PT option. So I can't see the other benefits of
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Mondo
LOL, Sure they do.
PumpkinAngel
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I'd agree that 5:30pm isn't too late for homework or dinner. It would be very hard for us to fit in, for example, swimming, piano practice, homework and dinner plus some down-time (which my kids, at least, seem to need some of every day or they get really worn out) in the 2.5 to 3 hours left before bed.
Laura
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