Big Fat Lie
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Big Fat Lie
| Sat, 09-11-2004 - 1:41pm |
I'm the mother of 2. I have 2 boys, one is 2 1/2, the other is 4 months old. Before I had my second baby, I was a full time nurse and was making more money than my husband. That being said, he never really had a problem with it. The extra money helped us pay for extras. Well, I decided after the second child, that I would stay at home most of the week. I work only 2 days a week, 6 hours a day. Now all of the sudden, I do EVERYTHING. He does not get up at night with this baby, he does not keep the house clean with me, NOTHING I do is important enough. (He plays softball once a week, goes out with the guys after etc.) I do not do anything. (Actually I get to go to Weight Watchers on Fridays while my mom watches the kids.) I have no life anymore, and his life is fantastic! I tried to take a class, but he wouldn't help with the kids enough so I couldn't stick with it.
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!
When we got married we were going to share all responsibilities, take care of the kids TOGETHER, do the housework TOGETHER. It was all just a BIG FAT LIE!!!!

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I don't think there is a pat answer and that every person will see the same affect when confronted with a few more hours a week at home. Different kids, different parents, different schools all combine to make our experiences vary.
Jenna
Alot of decreases and seriously degrade seem pretty even in my mind.
Jenna
I have noticed Zak is in a much better mood when he isn't in SACC (after school care). He is more talkative, more apt to do his homework without fuss and just more relaxed. Picking him up at 5:00 means he has to eat dinner, do homework, take a bath and try to play before 9:00. He is quite stressed and I am too.
Getting off at 3:00 was absolute heaven compared to 5:00.
"You just have to keep making decisions. Even wrong decisions" Joe Simpson in "Touching the Void" about surviving climbing down a mountain with a shattered leg.
Kristi
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IMO, dinner is important as a family activity. There are plenty of studies that link the number of family meals to increased grade point average, increased participation in actitivities and decreased dilinquency, drug use and later first sex.
Janet
if he were satisfied with just significantly lowering the fat, you could pour off the extra, or refrigerate it enough to let the fat solidify, remove it and then reheat.
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
In some fields, there is a huge difference between pay in the FT job and the PT job. In some fields and some cities, working 9 to 5 is practically considered PT!
Jenna
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