biological differences between the sexes

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Registered: 10-24-2007
biological differences between the sexes
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Thu, 01-24-2008 - 4:03pm

Do you acknowledge any biological difference between the sexes when it comes to childrearing? (apart from the obvious pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding)


Is the relationship between a mother and her child unique, in terms of being different than the relationship a father has with his children, in enough cases that one could generalize and say that it is?


Do SAHDs parent in a way that is different than moms?

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Registered: 01-04-2005
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 9:03am

The difference is my DH is the primary childcare provider for 4 mornings a week.

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 9:22am

Again, not my experience nor the experience of my friends who are sahms.

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 9:24am

I don't know if you misread the OP, or if I am maybe misreading your tone, but I'm not in disagreement with you at all that my feelings on this are most definitely colored by, not only being a SAHM now, but also in my 1st marriage, being a WOH step-parent who was STILL the one who was the traditional "mommy" even though she wasn't my biological daughter.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 9:24am

Thats wonderful that your DH comes home early to be with his children when they arent feeling well and that also says something positive about you arent one of those SAHM's that lack confidence in their husbands ability to care and nurture for his children.


I don't think it applies to all men whatsoever, but there are plenty of men out there that cannot handle caring for their babies early on.

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Registered: 07-12-2005
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 10:15am
When I worked in a day care, we called whichever parent was listed as the first contact. If the father was listed on the first line, we didn't skip over him to call the mother. Most of the time, whoever was listed first was the one the parents consciously chose to designate as the first person to call (the one who had the more flexible job or the one who worked the closest). I can think of only one family where we called the mother specifically because we felt she was more responsive to the child being sick. In that case, the father acted irritated if we asked him to come pick the child up, so we stopped calling him.
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Fri, 01-25-2008 - 10:23am

>I wish more respondents had answered the part of the question about who does your DC call if your child is sick, yourself or your DH?<

Sorry. Both dc and school call me first because we set it up that way. Not because of any sex/gender roles but because I was always the one who can get to dc/school the fastest. Dh can't just stop working and go pick up. I can. Or I can get home first after one of the alternates picks up Dylan from school. However, who gets to stay home with a sick kid all depends on who can stay home on any given day (the girls prefered dh when they were sick even when I was a sahm; Dylan prefers me). We have also tagged teamed it with the girls; each working a half a day. Dh can stay home with sick kids if he has some advance notice to get someone to replace him. I also have the option of taking Dylan with me to the bridal shop (which I also do on non-school days) if he's not too sick or of taking the gowns home to sew on.

Chris

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 10:33am

I am the one that is called for both.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 10:40am
They call me when Liza's with me and they call ex husband when she's with him.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 10:47am

The answer to the question about who does the daycare call in our case was so boring I didn't even answer, but if you really want to know:

If the kid got sick on Monday, Wednesday or Friday, they called DH.
If the kid got sick on Tuesday or Thursday, they called me.

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 10:48am

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eh?

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