Birth Order

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Mon, 07-28-2003 - 9:00am
I'm reading some of the birth order and relevant characteristics studies. As you all probably could guess, I'm pretty much a classic first born child - obedient to authority, ambitious, etc.

What's your birth order, and do you fit the stereotype (only children are included as firstborns)? How does your birth order impact your decision re: work status, if at all?

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Mon, 07-28-2003 - 10:07am
I'm a firstborn, and from what I understand, I fit the stereotype perfectly. My DH is the middle child, and he fits what I understand to bethat stereotype as well. However, I know little about the different stereotypes... how about posting them here, or giving a link to the descriptions?
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Mon, 07-28-2003 - 10:18am
I'm just at the beginning of "Born To Rebel," which takes the perspective of how open scientists were to Darwin's theories. Firstborns do not like new or original ideas; they perceive them as a threat to the established order, which benefits them. Later borns are in competition with the firstborns for parental affection and attention and are willing to think and live "outside the box" more often. The status quo is not as kind to them, so they are willing to try to remake the world to suit themselves.

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Mon, 07-28-2003 - 10:20am
This is something I have never really paid attention to. For one, it would take years just to figure out where I fall in the order. By BIRTH, I was the first child to my bio parents. BUT...dad already had two kids with his first wife (not that we saw them regularly), so I ended up being the 3rd of 4 kids for dad and the 1st of 2 kids for my biomom. HOWEVER, my dad then married my mom, who later adopted me. I was raised in their house (from the age of 8) as the middle child to my step(now adoptive)-sister and my bio-brother. HOWEVER, mom only adopted me. And she had a son who lived with his father. So, I was the youngest of moms 3 kids.

ROFL...so I guess I fall into every role. I'm the oldest with one parent, the middle with another, and the youngest with another. I think you would typically take how the child is raised, but by 8 years old, a lot about my personality was already formed. But being the middle child from 8-18 still affected me and my personality, so you cannot rule it out.

So, anyway, I don't realy fall into a "catagory", or it would take to much work to figure out what "catagory" I do fall into, so I have never bothered with reading up on this subject. :)

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Mon, 07-28-2003 - 12:35pm
Oldest child here and never gave the parents any trouble at all. Did everything according to a schedule and always followed the rules. Scary how true sterotypes can be. But then, sterotypes come from somewhere don't they? Oldest children are bossy right? I am so bossy, and rather enjoy it.
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Mon, 07-28-2003 - 12:45pm
I have no idea. I'm #4 out of 5 kids and I was the youngest for 6 1/2 years.

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Mon, 07-28-2003 - 1:00pm
Hmm... well, based on that description, I guess I don't really fit the firstborn stereotype. I'm a take-charge kind of person, but I'm definitely not orderly... I thrive on finding new ways of doing things, and exploring new ideas. I'm someone who "thinks outside of the box". My younger brothers, on the other hand, need order and a regular schedule. They don't handle change well and are very linear thinkers. But they also don't have the tendency to fall into leadership roles the way I do.

Now my DH, in the middle, is very much like me in terms of thinking outside of the box, etc. However, he's not a take-charge kind of person, either. Ironically, his older brother is someone who would run screaming from any sort of leadership role. He (the older brother) fits your description below, though... does not like new or original ideas, etc. DH's younger brother, out of the three of them, is clearly the "leader". He's like my DH otherwise - enjoys new ideas, thinks outside of the box, etc.

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Mon, 07-28-2003 - 1:13pm
Well I am the oldest, and I would say I fit *some* of the stereotypes. I definitely have a stronger work ethic than either of my brothers, although the youngest one (29) is starting to get it together workwise finally! I wouldnt say I am obedient to authority though (although I dont tend to stray much from the path of legality).

Now its interesting, because I only lived with my brothers fulltime for 5 years of our lives. So my middle brother actually shows some oldest child traits, although he has since rebelled against the *norms* he was raised to follow. He was the little *star* destined to go to harvard, be a doctor or lawyer or even a priest, and save the world. He ended up being a gay artist and yoga instructor, lol!!! My youngest brother was kind of shunted to the side a lot and left to his own devices, which I'd guess is something common for the youngest child. He had a lot more freedom and got away with more. And because he was left to his own devices, he is a lot more independent and sometimes a bit distant when it comes to family time.

I havent read much on birth order, but I do think its an interesting theory!

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Dj

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Mon, 07-28-2003 - 1:40pm
I don't know. I was adopted. (nt)

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Mon, 07-28-2003 - 1:42pm
What's your birth order in your adoptive family? That's more important to the theory than your bio birth order.

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Mon, 07-28-2003 - 2:03pm
I am a pretty classic second born.

My DH is second born but the first born son and also the oldest male in the house for many years so he is more of a first born.

I don't if it has any impact on my work status.

I think that DD1 and DD3 came out backwards, DD1 is more of a "baby" and DD3 has some first born characterisics.

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