Bring Your Parents to Work Day!

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Bring Your Parents to Work Day!
Thu, 11-14-2013 - 2:25pm

Is this another way for helicopter parents to get a foot in the door at their adult child's workplace?  LinkedIn had a "Bring Your Parents to Work" day, and there has been a lot of debate on whether this is in reaction to micromanaging parents:

First and foremost, this type of program tells younger employees that their employer doesn't see them as fully independent adults, untethered from their parents – or assumes that they don't see themselves that way. (To be clear, fully independent adults can and do choose to talk about work-related topics with their parents all the time – but they don't require an employer-planned event to do that.)

Since it's highly unlikely that 50-something employees are bringing their parents to these events, it's clear that it's targeting millennials, and that it's based on the belief that this generation of workers still finds it appropriate to create the type of parent-focused programs that they had in college and grade school.

When employers coddle younger employees like this, what does this mean for how they negotiate raises, give feedback, delegate work and otherwise interact with them? Are these employees going to get adult raises, adult assignments and adult feedback, or will they be condescended to there are well?

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Do you agree with LInkedIn's position that it was a way for parents to understand what their children are doing at work, or is it a way to encourage helicopter parenting into adulthood?

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 7:22am
LOL, that is sort of funny. But I think it is sort of normal to want to know what family members do at work and what their offices look like etc. I remember visiting my dad's office as a kid, and as an adult I have been invited to visit my brother's office, for example. Last year dh and I visited dd at college, and she certainly invited us to the place where she worked all last year, and we got to meet her boss (and thank the boss ;) ). She was proud to show us, so it was her initiative, not because we were being helicopter parents.
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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 7:23am

Double post

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 7:58am

Had not thought of it until Rolls post but I have been to some of my kids work places.

DD1 was a barista in college and for a couple of years after and I have been to her shop.   Now she is a banker,  a few years ago at one location she was working at  they were taking donations for the Humane Society.  We dropped off a donation and she took us around introducung us to her co-workers.  Her current location was having an open house and she invited us to come.   She was busy with a customer while we were there so we were not able to see her or her office but did meet some co-workers.

DD2 is a teacher. I have been in her classrooms but not when school was in  session.  At her previous school they had an event to honor vets on Veteran's Day and DH was able to attend that.

DD3 worked in a neighborhood BBQ place in high school/college that we have gone to a lot, both when she was working and when she was not working.   So even now when we go there  some of the employees refer to us as XX's parents.   Once while there the manager found out we were her parents and gave us our meal free.  The winners in that were the emplyees as we put the money that would have paid for our meal in the tip jar.

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 10:39am

My mom has been to most of my work places.  I believe my dad may have visited one or two of them also.

My son's workplace can't have any visitors.  He can't even let anyone know what floor his department is on.  I guess I won't be participating in take your parents to work day anytime soon.  

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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 12:42pm

I think a specific day is quite over the top but a more casual meeting, totally appropriate in certain situations.  


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Fri, 11-15-2013 - 9:24pm

I remember my first job out of college was at a local newspaper, It was only a p/t artist job but it was fun and a memory that stands out was when my parents came to visit me to see what I did there and we went out to lunch.. I'd do that with/for my kid but that's far away.  If next Summer DD1 gets this ice cream job she wants she'll get my patronage, Yum!



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Registered: 11-13-2011
Wed, 01-29-2014 - 5:41pm

this is definitely helicopter parenting.

We don't need a "bring your parent to work day".  The workplace is not a daycare center for adults.