Censoring and children
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Censoring and children
| Wed, 08-13-2003 - 3:32pm |
I was thinking about the topic of censoring discussions in front of children that came up in another thread. What would you not discuss at the dinner table if you have small children?
Also, WRT censoring, are there any "R" rated movies that you would let your young teen (say 13 or 14) see? My dh suggested Schindler's List -- I said I wouldn't because the violence (e.g. people being shot close up in the head) would be too traumatic for an early teen.
Also, WRT censoring, are there any "R" rated movies that you would let your young teen (say 13 or 14) see? My dh suggested Schindler's List -- I said I wouldn't because the violence (e.g. people being shot close up in the head) would be too traumatic for an early teen.
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I also try not to complain about my family or my in-laws in front of my children. I think it is very damaging. My sister gets on my ever-lasting nerve but she is their aunt and they need to decide for themselves if she is wacked or not. I have already decided. My MIL has this horrible habit of talking about my FIL negatively. I finally had to tell her that,while she had issues with him, he is my childrens grandfather and they did not need to hear it.
I am pretty open about everything else. I discuss the death penalty and other issues with my eldest. DH and I are both fairly liberal. Zak is the junior Alex P. Keaton and he is 6!
Here was our conversation about the death penalty while watching the news:
Z: What is a stay of execution?
Me: It means the federal/state government has delayed the execution.
Z: Why?
Me: Something legal about the trial-witnesses may have been tainted, the lawyer may not have been good. Do you think it is allright for the state to put someone to death?
Z: If they say they are going to do it, they should do it.
Me: We are working on a democratic campaign this summer.
He will either be President or a dictactor.
Kristi
&nbs
Maybe a president *and* a dictator. lol!
Zac sounds like a cutie.
Not really so much of a philosophic decision as it is just what I do.
As far as movies, we are pretty liberal. As conservative in EVERYTHING as my grandparents were, they allowed me to watch Friday the 13th and Nightmare on Elm Street from pretty young. My Papa and I would lay in their bed and watch on the black and white tv, b/c my grandma banned those movies from the big color tv in the living room...lol. But she would make us popcorn and drinks and cut us up apples. Sorry...tangent. Anyway, my daughter, who is 6 1/2 watches Scare Tactics (show on SciFi channel with Shannon Doherty hosting) with her dad. Doesn't thrill me, but she LOVES it. She LOVES the scifi channel. If I had my way, she probably wouldn't watch it, but DH is more lenient in that area than me...which is good, to some degree.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
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As far as the future, I just don't know. I think a lot of these things really depend on the kid involved and how the parents handle it. Meaning, are the kids watching the movie with their parents or with their friends? Are they able to ask their parents questions about the movie, have the parents seen the movie so they have have open dialogue, etc.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
my *biggest* issue with regards to what my children should and should not see on tv, is violence. i really feel it truly does desensitize some people. i am one who really gets "into" a movie, and see it to be real. some people can seperate real from tv, however, if i am one who sees it as real, how many children see it the same way?
i was rather surprised while at my neighbors house to learn she had not discussed nursing her new baby with her children before the baby was born. i think this was a big mistake. her older children are 10 and 7. surely old enough to understand what will happen when mom brings the baby home. when they walked in and saw her nursing, they were shocked. i dont understand. why not tell them. its not something they see on a daily basis, but is very normal and natural to human behavior.
lots of people make a big secret of women having their monthly. well, is this not normal? i had my kids bringing me tampons when they were big enough to walk, when i would forget one. as they got older i explained exactly what they were for, and as they matured, went into more detail. this has never ever been an issue with our kids, as it was just something that was always there.
the r movies i allowed my kids to see were the ones with language, as they were hearing way worse in jr high, and although i didnt condone the language, i felt it was ok to watch the *story* as long as they understood we dont use that language. also, if there was just frontal nudity, without any "sexual acts" connected to it, i did not have issue. if there was blood and guts, and cruel behavior, i definitely would not allow them to watch. i dont see any point in traumatizing kids. i personally only enjoy cinderella stories where everyone lives happily ever after.
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