change from working to SAH!

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change from working to SAH!
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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 2:32am

In my previous (6 yr)

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Fri, 11-11-2011 - 2:24pm

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Fri, 11-11-2011 - 1:47pm

Thanks!

And you're right. Plus, there's nothing wrong with maintaining a career because you enjoy it. I can think of no better gift to give to a child than modeling a happy adulthood!

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Fri, 11-11-2011 - 1:45pm
Absolutely. ALL decisions that don't affect us or aren't abuse or neglect to the children/family should be respected.

Unfortunately, it's apparent that SAH wives (in your case) are not always respected and that WOHMs (in anprdp's case) are not always respected.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Fri, 11-11-2011 - 1:43pm
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And if we can afford to meet the bills and still CHOOSE to WOH? Are we evil then?

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Fri, 11-11-2011 - 1:42pm

It's difficult to avoid scrutiny as a woman.

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Fri, 11-11-2011 - 1:41pm
So much for the << I would never judge anyone on it.>>


I'm sorry for what you and your family are going through. I truly am. I have a very dear friend who has an 8yo that had a brain tumor as a toddler and that still struggles with medical issues today. (She, by the way, is a FTWOHM). It's a situation no parent would ever wish themselves or anyone else into.

However, your tragic story doesn't make your argument any more compelling or any more true.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Fri, 11-11-2011 - 1:40pm
sunnysideupinrome wrote:

Amazing how now every word being said on this discussion

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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Fri, 11-11-2011 - 1:36pm
You said you don't judge - but your whole post was full of judgmental statements.

Saying one's farts don't stink doesn't mean anything if one's farts do indeed stink.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Fri, 11-11-2011 - 1:35pm
The judgments go both ways. Those who can afford to have a parent SAH and choose to work anyway are as unfairly and as often judged as those who choose to SAH. There will always be judgmental people in this world - you have to choose whether or not those people are important in your life and if not, ignore it.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Fri, 11-11-2011 - 1:31pm

What is disrespectful to all on this board is that you assume that we do not "weigh what's important."

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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