Changing Care and Schools of Children

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Changing Care and Schools of Children
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Tue, 01-22-2008 - 2:45pm

There's a discussion on another messageboard and I just wanted to get the SAH/WOH perspective and the views of this board too :)

1.Do you think it is disruptive or negative to switch a child to 2 or 3 different daycares or elementary schools even if all of them are of similarly good quality?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2007
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 10:15pm
in what time frame are you speaking of?

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Ducky

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-23-2007
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 7:47pm
I think it depends on the kid.

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 3:15pm
I was in a hostile mood that day I guess

 

Yes. We. Did.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2007
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 1:54pm
why is your post so hostile? i welcome the posts of distraction from SAh/WOh issues.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2007
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 1:42pm
in what time frame are you speaking of? 2-3 in a year? yes. 2-3 in 10 years? no
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 12:10pm

My Dad was in the military. We changed schools faster than we changed clothes. There were six of us, and most of us did somewhere between "really well" and "fine" with all the changes. One of my sisters, the most introspective and shy of the lot, didn't do as well. She's the kind who has one or two close friends, whereas most of the rest of us were OK with a group of friends/acquaintances. She's the only one of us who is regularly still in touch with childhood friends from all the different places we've lived. So it does depend on the kid.

However, there are times when a move is warranted. When a school or daycare situation is really bad, or changes happen that make a previously acceptable situation unacceptable, then it's really in the child's best interest to change the situation. In many cases, despite the desire for overall stability, change is necessary and positive.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2004
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 12:05pm

I agree that the personality of the particular child has a lot to do with whether a change is disruptive or not.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 11:17am

I think it is disruptive in both cases, but that doesn't mean there will never be a situation where, disruptive or not, it's in the best interest of the child or the family.


My children both went to the same child care center (DS is still there), and attended only one.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2006
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 11:17am

"I'm not sure about dcs since we haven't used any,"


Same here.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2006
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 11:08am

"I will be doing my best in insure minimum possible changes for A. in her school life, unless there is a compelling reason to move her, and would go so far as to say that we would avoid relocating even if there were more $$$ elsewhere etc., just to avoid frequent changes of schools."


I agree wholeheartedly.

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