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| Tue, 02-12-2008 - 9:12am |
that's difference - with an "e" :)
Inspired by a post the other day, I think from peteynjoeysmom, about contracting out the "drudge work" of childcare and housework.
Do you think there's a big difference between "childcare" and "parenting", and if so, what is it?
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That was nicely said.
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Yes. We. Did.
"For me, 'parenting' is not just done by a Mother and Father, it also involves grandparents, godparents and other close members of the family. I am a firm believer in it takes a village to raise a child."
I have to disagree that grandparents, godparents and other close family members take part in parenting- unless circumstances have forced them to do so. There are decisions that only a parent can make and responsibilities that only a parent has, unless a judge decides otherwise. These decisions and responsibilities are what separates parenting from childcare and also from assisting with raising. Granparents, godparents, aunts, uncles don't have the authority to make parenting decisions (unless a judge grants them this authority). They don't get to decide where the child lives or goes to school, what religious instruction they will get- if any. They can't decide what values the child will be raised with and what discipline style will be used. They don't choose the doctor, they don't make any medical decisions. They also don't have any of the responsibilities that a parent has. Many grandparents have paid for things for their grandchildren, but they don't have to do this and providing for their grandchildren isn't actually something they HAVE to do, the way that it is something a parent HAS to do.
I think of childcare as more of a short term situation and more physical care of the child, while parenting encompasses much more than just the physical care of the child and lasts a lot longer.
PumpkinAngel
Then one makes their own village.
PumpkinAngel
I agree, my kids are closer to their
PumpkinAngel
Very well said.
PumpkinAngel
There are some fuzzy, blurry lines between the two, but ultimately the difference is responsibility.
Who will the police call? Who will the hospital call? Who's butt will be sued into oblivion when Junior throws a kegger if the parents go away for a weekend?
I fed my baby. My DCP fed my baby. I chose the DCP. I rocked my baby. My DCP rocked my baby. I chose the DCP.
I parented. My ex parented. Our DCP helped. But ultimately, the responsibility, the legal bottom line, was my ex and I.
Child care involves JUST child care. Parenting involves childcare and many more things as well, including responsibility.
Kitty
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Kitty
"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t
Parenting is not just about making rules and paying for things.
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