Choose To verses Have To

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Choose To verses Have To
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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 9:00am

Where is that line? Is there a line? What determines it?

I have been trying to figure out if I am a "choose to" or "have to" sahp. If one only looks at finances, I am definitely a "choose to" sahp. However, IF I had my druthers, I would be a wohp. My family's "unique" circumstances make it easy for our whole family to have a sahp and a wohp. We have weighed the pluses and minuses and sah comes out first- it isn't really close. If it were close, I would be a wohp. So, I feel like a "Have To" sahp.

If we look at the finances, DH is a "Have To" wohp if we have a sahp. However, when we made the decision to have me first work part time and then, later, quit. We talked about *both* of us working reduced hours (30 or so). He did quit a very demanding job at a start up and went to a *relatively less demanding job at a medium sized company. So, weighing his feelings, he is a "Choose To" wohp.

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Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 2:47pm
Does census and recordings call it upper middle class? Have you ever checked it out?
For me to "downsize" (speaking of price of home), I would have to go to a below average area which I would never do to have a sahm or sahd.
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Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 2:58pm

Oh gee .. I've never thought to actually check out the status of the community in which I live. Wow, I've been living in the ghetto for 7 years and didn't even know it!


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Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 3:05pm
Yeah, well, aren't you glad you found out?

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 3:06pm

ok.


i know, this covnersation has been visited before but it always seems unfinished, LOL.

 

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Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 3:09pm
I don't find any harm to see how my town is rated. There are many places online you can find this information. I actually just looked mine up so that is how I know it is considered middle class and the houses that are much cheaper are considered below average.
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 3:10pm
Out of curiosity, where did you look it up?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 3:14pm
All you really have to do is look up your town (or anyone else) and there is tons of websites that will tell you the stats.
Googling is the key.


Edited 4/14/2010 3:15 pm ET by sweetsummmerdays
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Registered: 11-22-2000
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 3:15pm

You beat me to the question.


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Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 3:17pm
You can look this up in many places. However, I think the main point this poster wants to make is that she has found savcal's street address, and other than that, she wants to convince people that she is middle class (I am guessing).

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 3:18pm
I know that. I'm just curious which website you used to look it up.

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