Choose To verses Have To

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Choose To verses Have To
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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 9:00am

Where is that line? Is there a line? What determines it?

I have been trying to figure out if I am a "choose to" or "have to" sahp. If one only looks at finances, I am definitely a "choose to" sahp. However, IF I had my druthers, I would be a wohp. My family's "unique" circumstances make it easy for our whole family to have a sahp and a wohp. We have weighed the pluses and minuses and sah comes out first- it isn't really close. If it were close, I would be a wohp. So, I feel like a "Have To" sahp.

If we look at the finances, DH is a "Have To" wohp if we have a sahp. However, when we made the decision to have me first work part time and then, later, quit. We talked about *both* of us working reduced hours (30 or so). He did quit a very demanding job at a start up and went to a *relatively less demanding job at a medium sized company. So, weighing his feelings, he is a "Choose To" wohp.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2000
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 3:22pm

What


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 3:22pm
No, as I have said before, I know MY area from many websites online. Other people can easily look up theirs too.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 3:30pm
City-data.com, money.cnn.com, spokeo, mytown website, wikipedia, home townlocator, www.muninetguide.com/states/.....
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 3:31pm
None of those tell me if my neighborhood is middle class or not.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 3:49pm
Really? Mine did.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 3:51pm
It's probably because my zip code encompasses about half the neighborhoods in my town.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 3:53pm
One of the sites that I got from facebook you put your name in, not your town.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-09-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:11pm

The only site that I saw that info on was psokeo.

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Ducky

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:13pm
LOL. Yeah, it lists people living with me that definitely don't live here.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:21pm
Mine was inaccurate BUT it did correspond to other sites for other areas.

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