Choose To verses Have To

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Choose To verses Have To
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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 9:00am

Where is that line? Is there a line? What determines it?

I have been trying to figure out if I am a "choose to" or "have to" sahp. If one only looks at finances, I am definitely a "choose to" sahp. However, IF I had my druthers, I would be a wohp. My family's "unique" circumstances make it easy for our whole family to have a sahp and a wohp. We have weighed the pluses and minuses and sah comes out first- it isn't really close. If it were close, I would be a wohp. So, I feel like a "Have To" sahp.

If we look at the finances, DH is a "Have To" wohp if we have a sahp. However, when we made the decision to have me first work part time and then, later, quit. We talked about *both* of us working reduced hours (30 or so). He did quit a very demanding job at a start up and went to a *relatively less demanding job at a medium sized company. So, weighing his feelings, he is a "Choose To" wohp.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:28pm
It's not correct around here. It seems to take the average home price for an area and compare it to the national average. It doesn't adjust for individual neighborhoods.
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Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:32pm
Mine seemed right in my area and surrounding towns.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:35pm
I'm guessing that's because your area is much more densely populated. Like I said before, our zip code encompasses many different neighborhoods-- from one room shacks to million dollar homes.
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Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:38pm

May I ask what it says for your neighborhood then as mine says middle class?

I don't know how they figure it out but I would think they would take an average and then name it like that.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:43pm
If they take an average for my much lower COL area and compare it to the national average, it's not going to be at all accurate. It says below average, but that's really irrelevant. It also says that several people I know who live in upper middle class neighborhoods with home values of $1,000,000+ live in below average neighborhoods. I'd say my neighborhood is middle class to lower middle class depending on which street your standing on. LOL.
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Registered: 12-01-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:45pm

I'm not one for labels... so the upper middle lower stuff doesn't really interest me so I don't think i'd ever go looking up mine or anyone elses stuff to see where they fell... I guess to me all that matters is when I look around and say "I like it here" yaknow?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:45pm
Just because your home is worth a million dollars, does not mean it is in a good area with good schools. I know many million dollar homes that are in towns considered "lower class".
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Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:47pm
Living in a good area, with good schools, is important to many people. That is why they publish this type of information.


Edited 4/14/2010 4:47 pm ET by sweetsummmerdays
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:48pm
What does a private detective have to do with living in a good area with good schools? Is that her background?
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Registered: 12-01-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:53pm

I was just saying that I guess if I really wanted to research any particular area she knows all the ins and outs of where to get that kind of info.. .I just have no desire to.

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