Choose To verses Have To

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Choose To verses Have To
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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 9:00am

Where is that line? Is there a line? What determines it?

I have been trying to figure out if I am a "choose to" or "have to" sahp. If one only looks at finances, I am definitely a "choose to" sahp. However, IF I had my druthers, I would be a wohp. My family's "unique" circumstances make it easy for our whole family to have a sahp and a wohp. We have weighed the pluses and minuses and sah comes out first- it isn't really close. If it were close, I would be a wohp. So, I feel like a "Have To" sahp.

If we look at the finances, DH is a "Have To" wohp if we have a sahp. However, when we made the decision to have me first work part time and then, later, quit. We talked about *both* of us working reduced hours (30 or so). He did quit a very demanding job at a start up and went to a *relatively less demanding job at a medium sized company. So, weighing his feelings, he is a "Choose To" wohp.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:54pm

BTW, the US Census Bureau does not have definitions of Middle Class, Upper Class, etc.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:55pm
It was sarcasm.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:55pm
What was she researching? Areas to live?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:56pm
I also named other websites to find all type of information on an area.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:57pm
So you have been to these sites?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-01-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:59pm

*snort* right now she isn't researching anything -s he doesn't do that any more -- nor has she for 3 years now since she got out of nursing school


iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 4:59pm

What was frustrating to me was your implication that I wasn't smart enough or knowledgeable to have looked my community up or done any research on my community.


Hell, I used to work for the Chamber of Commerce, which also houses the Economic Development arm for the city.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 5:00pm
Honey, I
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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 5:12pm
Yeah well, good luck with getting through.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 5:19pm
I suppose that my whole town could be lower class and have terrible schools, but it doesn't. Those houses (as well as mine) feed in to a high school with a 10/10 rating on GreatSchools.net.

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